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Our shared physical reality is the most common state of reality we experience, but it certainly isn’t the only one. Our nighttime dreams are another state, as are astral experiences, near-death experiences, and out-of-body experiences.

I regard these different levels of reality as being at different frequencies or energy levels. It’s like tuning into different TV channels. Physical reality seems slower, denser, and less malleable than the other levels.

Astral projection, out-of-body experiences, and near-death experience could be said to occur at other frequencies than the physical universe. And within those there are a variety of sub-levels. People who are skilled at astral projection, for example, can visit different astral realms with unique properties. Some astral locales seem like close approximations of the physical world, while others are so different from physical reality they’re nearly impossible to describe.

Perhaps the best analogy I can use to describe these different realities is to compare them to states of matter. You’re intimately familiar with solid, liquid, and gas, since you interact with matter in those states every day. But did you know there are a lot more states of matter, including Bose-Einstein condensates, fermionic condensates, strange matter, degenerate matter, quark-gluon plasma, superfluids, supersolids, and possibly others? How much time do you spend interacting with those? Are they as real as solid, liquid, and gas, or some delusional physicists just make them up to convince someone to fund more of their expensive toys?

Just as there are different states of matter, there are different levels of reality. Every state of matter has unique physical and energetic properties, as do all the realms of reality your consciousness can perceive. Your inability to access all these states or realms at will is a limitation of your perceptual abilities.

I imagine you spend most of your time interacting with solids, liquids, and gases, but it’s believed that most of the matter in the visible universe is actually in the plasma state. So if you were to assume that the states of matter you interact with personally are the only ones that exist, you’d be very wrong. You’d also be wrong if you assumed those states were the most common. With respect to the vastness of the physical universe, your personal experience of matter is rather atypical. You’re basically living in a bubble.

Similarly, I think it would be just as big a mistake to assume that this physical reality is the only reality there is. I suspect this realm is only one among many, and I doubt it’s the most popular hangout for conscious beings. Some people have written fascinating books about their astral explorations, like Robert Monroe’s Far Journeys, and some astral realms appear to be rather crowded.
It’s common to deny the existence of what we haven’t personally experienced, but such behavior is rather limiting.

I think a better attitude is to be an explorer. If you don’t know what’s out there, and you’re curious about it, go take a look around. You can use the maps created by others as a guide — at least to the extent you find them helpful. That’s a better approach than summarily claiming, “There be dragons.”

Opening ourselves up to what may exist but which hasn’t yet been observed is how we invite new experiences into our reality. This is not merely wishful thinking or open-mindedness. It is the process by which we creatively sculpt reality itself.

What is reality but a concept unique to each of us? Can anything be classed as real when our perceptions differ greatly on so many things? Just because we see something a particular way does not make it so. We can be so insistent sometimes that our way of seeing something is more right than someone else’s way.

Keep an open mind at all times and remember that a point of view is always valuable to each individual. I always used to class myself as someone who was ‘realistic’ but after contemplating this further I realised that the term ‘realistic’ means something very different entirely.

Putting Things Into Context:

Lets take the example of war. There are some people who believe that war is necessary sometimes to get peace and then in order to keep the peace. There are other people who will believe that war is evil and should never be entered into no matter what. Who is right? Is war right or wrong? That’s just an example and I’m not here to answer that question.
I’m here to demonstrate that reality is a very fluid concept. What you see as real is only defined by your belief structure. Your version of what is real is only your perception of it; not what is so.

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are” – Talmud

Choosing Your Perception:

Here’s another example: Lets say an event occurs in your life. You have the choice about how your respond to it. Lets say you have a death in the family. (I use this example because of it’s something I’ve been through.) You can choose to see that event as something terrible and tragic to which you will respond accordingly. Or, you can choose to see that event and something that inspires you to make something more of your life; living every day as if it was the last, so to speak.

From that example you can see that you may or may not have control over the events in your life but you can certainly take control of how to respond to them. That part of life will always be within your power. This is where life gets interesting because you shape your own reality through your beliefs.

Your belief structure determines your perception which then ultimately determines how you respond to events. Going by that sequence you can then see that there is another place to start. You can choose to examine your beliefs and then choose to change them. That’s why I say that everything begins with a choice.

Skewed Perceptions

Human life is seen as very precious on Earth because people believe that humans are the top of the food chain. Other forms of life take second fiddle. It’s only a belief but the truth is many of these other life forms sustain us and were it not for them we wouldn’t be around any more. That is more a realistic than thinking that humans are superior.

There is no such thing as reality. There is only ‘your’ version of it which is essentially your perception. Remember that what you believe to be true is only as true as your worldly experience and it doesn’t go any further than that. Even many scientific theories are just that; they are theories! It doesn’t make them so.

Everyday scientists are making discoveries that are forcing them to throw out the old text books and write new ones. As much as we think we may know how life and the universe works I promise the limited knowledge will continue to re-written over the coming centuries.
It’s important to note that how you choose to perceive things is how they come across to you. Am I being a hypocrite in stating this? Is this just my reality? I guess in some ways yes I am being a bit of hypocrite but this in my theory on universal principles. I believe that your power to choose how to perceive things makes them appear that way to you.

What is it that we perceive? What is the relationship among things-in-themselves, our sensation of them, and our understanding? Is understanding nothing more than the ideas generated by our sensations, as Locke believed? Or are there distinct Cartesian realms of thought and sense? And is there an external reality apart from our sensations?

Philosophers have troubled over such questions, for engaging them is to wrestle with the fundamentals of our ontologies and epistemologies. Until recent times, however, philosophers have had to deal with such questions without the help of any systematic psychological or relevant physiological knowledge. The philosopher was left largely to his own good sense, thought, and intuition.

Now physiological and especially neurological knowledge, psychological laboratory research, and empirical analyses by Gestalt, field, and personality theorists, and psychoanalytic experience have given us a solid base for our understanding of perception. Rather than review the fascinating philosophical views of perception and their relationship to thought and reality, I will move directly to a rough sketch of the perceptual field and only allude to some of the more pertinent philosophical ideas in the process.


Perception is a dynamic conflict between the attempts of an outer world to impose an actuality on us and our efforts to transform this actuality into a self-centered perspective. Perception is a confrontation between an inward directed vector of external reality compelling awareness and an outward-directed vector of physiological, cultural, and psychological transformation. Where these vectors clash, where they balance each other, is what we perceive. This in sum is my view of perception.

To begin with, initially assume a reality outside our minds and bodies containing potentials and dispositions. Any aspect of this realm with the power to stimulate our senses (for example, sounds, heat, color, motion) may be called a determinable.

The determinable tries to become determinate or manifest as stimuli that strike our sensory receptors through a medium, as sound waves are carried by an atmosphere, or heat by a solid. What is a stimulus and what is a carrier or medium varies from sensation to sensation. Stimuli and carriers may be interchanged from one instant to another, the relative role depending on the perceptual focus and the determinable. The atmosphere may carry one stimulus and then generate stimuli itself (such as wind); the movement of a solid body may be stimulus to the eye, then the body itself may carry heat to our touch.

Once a stimulus is carried from the determinable to our sensory receptors, it then is altered and interpreted electrically by the body’s neurological system. Complex neural paths transmit the result from the receptors to somewhere in the brain. Let me call the resulting deposit in the brain the perceptible, and the neurological transmission system between receptors and perceptible the physiological medium.

Clearly what is directed toward us as a stimulus may differ from what is received as a perceptible. The external medium may alter the stimulus (as water does sound), or there may be no medium present to convey it (voices cannot be heard through a vacuum). Moreover, what is transmitted to our sensory receptors cannot be carried with fidelity to the brain. We can receive only a limited range of sounds, smells, and radiant energy; and what is within receivable range is altered physically in transmission to the brain. Thus, for example, the impulse frequency conveyed from the basilar membrane of the cochlea in the inner ear is not the same frequency as that of the impinging sound.

Animals clearly differ in their limitations for physiologically transmitting stimuli carried to their receptors. Each selectively interprets external reality physiologically within its own sensory sphere. There is a sensory sphere for us, a different one for dogs, another for cats, and so on. The fact that we have developed tools for extending our receptors (x-rays for example), and thus our sensory-sphere, does not alter the biological fact that the everyday external world we know through our perceptibles is but a transformation of stimuli of external reality.

The two different media which carry stimuli from the determinable to the brain. The movement from stimulus (the determinable) to medium to receptors to neural transmission to perceptible is a chain with each, event” in the chain being necessary but not sufficient for the one following it. The nature of this transformal chain and the existence of different sensory spheres for each animal argue against many varieties of realism and for some kind of dualism or perspectivism. Various forms of direct realism, such as naive realism–the view that there is what we sense–are untenable. What reaches our brain is not directly what is out there in its totality, although the perceptibles may be more or less patterned after external reality or comprise aspects or facets of realities as a landscape painting more or less copies the real terrain.


 Perceptibles are what reach the brain, but they are not what may be perceived. Rather, perceptibles reach intuitive awareness through the cultural schema and the cultural system of meanings-values. The schema consists of the fundamental culture-given categories for making the perceptibles intelligible and the cultural framework for their interpretation. Cause and effect, relation, space, and time are such categories, as are, more specifically, up-down, right-left, and north-south.

The schema provides orientation toward the perceptibles. The cultural system of meanings-values gives the perceptibles their significance, invests them with meaningfulness for us, informs them with design, assigns them purpose, and bestows them with value. The perceptibles are given their interpretative importance through the meanings-values system and oriented through the schema for our practical judgment and behavior. shows a perceptible passing through this entirely mental orientational and significance adding investiture, this cultural matrix, to become a percept. It is a percept which we apprehend, of which we are aware, of which we are conscious.

Some examples of perceptibles and percepts may clarify their difference. Now, what reaches the brain as perceptibles are nerve impulses that communicate a complex amorphous aggregation of color patches, motions, odors, sounds, and so on. A perceptible may be a particular sound or color patch or form. It has no identity as girl, knife, cloth, or John, for example, until it is mentally invested with these interpretations. For purposes of clarification, however, let me impose these elementary names on the perceptibles and put them in quotation marks to show that I have already imposed a primitive interpretation.

While our perceptual consciousness or awareness begins with percepts, we add to percepts a structure, a sculptured body that enables us to cognitively deal with them and make them intelligible. This conceptual stage of perception involves our fitting percepts and language together. This is the naming level, where percepts are turned into concepts connoting specific invariant properties (dispositions). The perceived blue patch becomes sky, the red somewhat spherical percept becomes an apple, the percept of a person becomes the President. Clearly, percept turns into concept through the cultural matrix. Our cultural learning largely determines that which we are consciously aware of and how we conceptually structure that awareness.


This account of perception is uncongenial with the views of various philosophers who equated sensations with perceptibles and then argued that we were directly aware of external reality through these sensations. Hobbes, Descartes (even in his dualism), Berkeley, Hume, and Locke believed that our percepts or concepts are directly based on or directly reflect our sensations. They differed on the relation of judgment and thought to sensations; but insofar as sensations (perceptibles) were concerned, they allowed little room for cultural influences to intervene between them and ideas (percepts): they did not appreciate the extent to which cultural learning and content transforms our perception, and the degree to which conscious sensations are culturally mediated perceptions of external reality.

Previously, I had noted that the route from determinables as stimulus to our receptors and from receptors to perceptibles is at best an imperfect transmission. Now we also see that the mental alteration of perceptibles into percepts is a metamorphosis–a transformation–and not a simple transmission. It is a transformal process. Thus we find that the belief in direct realism, whether that we directly perceive (consciously) what is “out there” or that we perceive a representation (like a map) of what is there, is untenable, even though widely believed today among social scientists and very much an assumption underlying various views on social conflict and war.

However, I must hasten to add that psychologists would consider the above view of perception grossly inadequate–a biocultural perceptual determinism built on only a partial view of perception. And they would be correct. For what is missing so far is our psychological, our neuroses, anxieties, abilities, motivations, intentions, memories, and temperament. Moreover, the social psychologist would correctly add that I have ignored roles and expectations and the interactive link between behavior and perception. And not to be slighted, the psychoanalyst would yell above the clamor, “id, ego, superego!”

To see why we must ultimately incorporate psychological forces, consider the glaring omission of perceptual illusions or hallucinations from my account. We sometimes perceive what does not exist in external reality, or what we do perceive is grossly distorted beyond any cultural influences. Seeing pink elephants when drunk, having double vision, hearing ghosts, or touching holy apparitions, and the like are examples. Ideologically investing perceptibles with perceptually integrated themes, like capitalist exploitation, communist conspiracy, or Catholic plots are other perhaps more common distortions or illusions.

Consequently, while stimuli are necessary and not sufficient for excitation of our receptors, perceptibles are neither sufficient nor necessary for perception.
-First, the cultural schema and meanings-values system provide a perspective within which some perceptibles are given interpretation and some are ignored. Thus, the multitude of amorphous and varied perceptibles the brain receives as a result of a glance will be reduced to the perception of, say, a lion, a tree, or a pencil. Foreground and background may be omitted and unessential perceptibles other than the focal determinable will be ignored. That the brain receives perceptibles is therefore no guarantee that they are transformed into percepts.
-Second, we may perceive without any associated perceptible. We may project into external reality, for example, the visions of a holy person when no corresponding perceptible is being received by the brain. Therefore, perceptibles are also not necessary for percepts.

Then, how do we form percepts? What role in perception do perceptibles play, if neither necessary nor sufficient? For answers, we must reinterpret the psychological reality. We must now consider perceptibles as entering a field of psychological forces capable of executing them, or buffeting them about until, distorted and tattered, they reach awareness–a field also capable of creating within itself, and wholly out of local field forces, perspectives and percepts. We thus would find that as we increasingly view perception as being within a psychological field, the causal chain theory of perception, even as modified, becomes more untenable.

External objects, what I call determinables, may generate stimuli, which become altered and selected through our physiological medium and transformed by our cultural matrix into perceptibles, but what we are aware of, that which we perceive, may only remotely correspond to the resulting perceptibles or may be wholly psychological inventions. That is, there is an active, psychological engagement in perception, a confrontation of external reality with a psychological reality, a clash of two worlds whose battle lines comprise our perception.

Therefore, while useful as an initial provisional sketch, the simple view of perception as a unidirectional process running from external object to stimuli to receptors to perceptibles to percept to concept will have to be modified in favor of a dialectical field theory of perception.

The original formulation, however, put forward by Nobel Prize-winner Werner Heisenberg, states that it is your knowledge of the system that collapses. Nothing in the real world actually changes; the only thing that changes is the uncertainty in your knowledge.
Nevertheless, there is a sense in which you do create your own reality: You create your own experience of reality. Take, for example, your ability to see. Light enters the eye, triggering nerve impulses that travel to the brain. There, these impulses are analyzed and put together into an image.

You think you see the world, but what you’re seeing is a reconstruction of the world. The same applies to all your senses: You hear your own listening, et cetera. In this way, you’re creating your own perception of reality.
How you perceive reality depends in a large part on your attitude. A positive attitude is clearly a good starting point and may in part explain why things sometimes turn out the way you want.

I have discovered, for instance, that when I’m rested, centred and clear, things work out well. But I don’t believe this is because I am “creating” the world around me. It happens because I have put myself into a good state of mind to pick up opportunities.

Yet almost all the great spiritual teachers through time have said that whether you are happy ultimately depends on how you feel about yourself on the inside, not whether you have a nicer car or a betterpaying job than someone else.

Telling people they can achieve happiness by acquiring more things just reinforces the mindset that’s leading us to extract more and more out of the planet and that will ultimately drive our culture to extinction.

A change in consciousness is a change in perception—a change in how we see things. The real secret—and it’s only a secret because we keep forgetting it—is that we always have a choice in how we see, experience and interpret reality. That is what determines whether or not you’ll be happy and find peace. Let me repeat this again, we always have a choice in how we see, experience and interpret reality.

Every day we have the opportunity to learn a little more about ourselves, to let go a little more of attitudes that no longer serve us, to step back and be a little less attached to desires.

In every unexpected situation when the world fails to match our expectations, when what is happening is not what we think should be happening, we can remind ourselves that we have a choice.

We can either see the situation through the eyes of fear – all the ways in which it could lead us to suffer. Or we can choose to see it through the eyes of love – as an opportunity for learning, growth and greater understanding.

This shift in perception is a foundation stone of spiritual work. If we practice this in every situation in which we find ourselves, with every person we meet, then we can move from being the victim of our thoughts and feelings to being the master of them. And through that help ourselves and each other to become happier, healthier, and more caring people.

Most of us have become so focused on what it is we think we want, we have forgotten what it is we are really seeking. We seldom ask ourselves “What is it we really want?” When we go deeply into this question we find a common theme behind all our desires.
We want to feel better. We may give this inner feeling various different names — joy, happiness, inner peace, satisfaction, fulfillment, bliss, contentment, ease, well-being — but however we describe the quality of mind we seek, the underlying motivation is the same. We are looking to avoid pain and suffering, and find a more enjoyable state of consciousness.

This is completely natural, and is as true for every other sentient being on this planet as it is for us. It is the organism’s way of monitoring how it is doing in life. If there is something amiss — if we need food, for instance — we feel hungry, which is usually an uncomfortable experience. We don’t feel good and so, quite naturally, we look for something will relieve our suffering — in this case food. Having eaten we feel better; our lives are in balance again.

This is one thing that unites us all; we all want to reduce our suffering and find a more comfortable, satisfying state of mind.
Today, however, we need to spend very little time and energy fulfilling these physical needs. If we are hungry or thirsty we simply go to the refrigerator, or we can get in our car and drive down to the supermarket — in the middle of night in many cities.
We have insulated ourselves from most of the dangers we are likely encounter in the wild, and provided ourselves with shelters whose level of comfort is way beyond that enjoyed by kings and queens two hundred years ago.

If we are still not happy it is not because we lack some physical need; it is almost certainly because of some inner hunger. We are lacking for approval, security, status, power, affection, or some other psychological need.

This where the memes come into play. We have been conditioned since birth with the belief that satisfaction of these inner needs comes through our interaction with the world. We seek inner fulfillment through what we have or what we do, through the experiences the world provides, and through the way others behave towards us.

This is the meme that governs so much of our thinking and behavior; the meme that says whether or not we are content with life depends upon what we have and what we do.

Prevalent as this meme may be, it seldom provides any lasting satisfaction. A person may gather a great deal of wealth, but is he really more secure? More than likely he will soon find new sources of insecurity. Are my investments safe? Will the stock-market crash? Can I trust my friends? Should I employ “security” companies to protect my possessions?
Someone else, seeking fulfillment through sensory stimulation, may find a restaurant with the most exquisite cooking. Does that satisfy her? Or come the next day is she wondering when she might repeat the experience?
Another may seek fame in order to be approved and accepted. Is he then happy? Or is he upset at having lost the love of his family, or no longer deriving any satisfaction from his work?

Others may believe that if only they could find the right relationship they would be fulfilled. They continually look around for the perfect person, the person who satisfies their expectations; the person who will satisfy their inner needs and so make them happy. Yet such fulfillment can be short-lived. It usually is not be long before we start finding imperfections in even the most perfect person.
Part of the problem is that we are looking for fulfillment in a world that is constantly changing — and changing ever more rapidly. Stock-markets go up and down, cars get damaged, fashions come and go, friends change their minds. Consequently, any satisfaction we do gain is likely to be impermanent.

There is, however, a more fundamental reason why this approach does not work. We are responding to our mental needs as if they were bodily needs — as if their cause lay in the world around us. While our bodily needs are a symptom of some physical lack — a lack of food or heat, perhaps — the same is not true of our psychological needs.

Most of the time the cause is in our minds. We feel insecure because we imagine misfortunes that might befall us in the future. Or we selves that we are not able to live up to some ideal that we have set ourselves.
There may well be physical causes for our concern — events may not turn out as we would wish, we may not be achieving our goals but the reason that we feel insecure, unworthy, or whatever, is as much a result of how we interpret and judge events as it is a result of the events themselves.

There is nothing wrong with self-interest as such. We need to take care of our biological selves, make sure we have adequate food, water and shelter, avoid danger, take rest and ensure our other basic needs are met. Without this basic level of self-interest none of us would survive for very long.

This in most cases rarely gives us peace of mind. Once our physical hunger is fulfilled the deeper spiritual needs remain gaping like a joke in our souls.

Our society to these ends has caught itself in a vicious circle. Most of us go through life on the assumption that psychological contentment comes from what we have or do, and that is the message we teach each other.

If we see somebody suffering, we are more likely than not to suggest ways they can change the situation so as to feel better. When we want to persuade someone to buy something or other, we tell them how much happier it will make them.
And when our best-laid plans fail to give us what we seek, we encourage each other to try again. One of the most damaging consequences of looking to the world to satisfy our inner needs is that it results in a competitive mode of consciousness.
Perceiving that our surroundings are limited in what they can provide, we compete for the things we believe will bring us happiness, fame, success, friends, promotion, power, attention, and money. Such competition is wasteful.

-It leads us to produce things that no one really needs.
-It encourages short cuts in the name of financial expediency.
-It promotes blinkered thinking and short-sightedness.
-It causes us to care less for the Earth than we do for our own well-being.
-It puts us in competition with Nature herself — insecticides, herbicides, and fungicides keep other species at bay so that we can more easily, and more profitably, accomplish our own ends.

This basic operating principle also results in an exploitative mode of consciousness. We use — or perhaps one should say “abuse” — our surroundings, other people, and even our own bodies in our quest for greater satisfaction.
This is the root of our exploitation of the world: the attitudes and values that come from believing that inner well-being is dependent upon what we have or do. Money, power, and the other things that people often blame are not the root cause; they are simply symptoms of a deeper underlying error in our thinking.

Most of the time we forget that our inner needs have an inner cause. We perceive other people or external circumstance to be the root of our discomfort, and respond as we would to a physical lack — by making adjustments to the physical world. But this only deals with part of the problem. The inner lack continues, and soon reappears in some other guise.

Looking to the material world for the satisfaction of our inner needs is the source of much fear. We fear any changes in our circumstances that suggest the world may not the way we think it ought to be for us to be at peace.
We may fear losing our jobs because of the loss of income, and the possibility that our lives may not be so comfortable. We may fear failure for the disapproval it might bring or for the loss of self-esteem. We may fear having nothing to do because we might get bored. We may fear telling the truth because others might not like us for it. We fear the unknown for the dangers it may contain. We fear uncertainty, not knowing whether or not we will find what we are after.

Here lies a sad irony. In the final analysis what we are all after is a more satisfying state of mind. We want to be happy, at peace within ourselves. Our fears stem from the possibility that the future may bring us greater suffering rather than happiness. Yet the very nature of fear makes us more anxious in the present. And a mind that is anxious cannot, by definition, be a mind that is at peace.
Our concern to avoid suffering in the future, keeps us suffering in the present. We have lost the very thing we seek.

We love work for what it brings — security, self-esteem, comforts, human contact, challenge. On the other hand we resent it for what it demands of us — the time we have to spend at it, the energy and freedom it seems to take from us. How many of us, if given the money we now receive from work, would still choose to spend our time in an office, a truck, a store, a print-shop or a coal-mine? The majority want what work gives, not the work itself.

We fear unemployment not because we fear the loss of work itself, but because we fear insecurity, uncertainty, loss of self-esteem, material discomfort and possibly hunger — all things that work has helped us avoid. In addition, since our economies are based on the input of human labor (human time is the principal component of any price, the natural resources being intrinsically free), wide-scale unemployment can spell disaster for a nation’s economic well-being.

The question we should be asking is not how to maintain employment, but how to create an economic system that can distribute resources and enhance our well-being, while at the same time fulfilling our age-old wish to be free from unwanted toil.
To be truly free we need to move beyond our cultural conditioning. We need to release ourselves from our attachments; from our concern for past and future times. We need to be free of our illusions. Free from unnecessary fear. The freedom we now need is the inner freedom that allows us to think more intelligently. The freedom to draw more deeply upon our creativity and use it in ways that are in our true best interests. The freedom to follow our vision, and find that which we truly seek.

This is the opportunity that our many physical freedoms are opening us to — self-liberation. The freeing of our minds so that we may be our true, authentic selves.

This new freedom requires a new kind of work — work on ourselves. In this respect we have not reached the end of work at all. There has merely been a shift in the arena of work from outer to inner. A shift to the next phase in human evolution.
Our difficulties are largely due to confused ideas and ignorance of our true interests. The great task is to discover the laws of nature to which we are to adjust ourselves. Clear thinking and moral insight are, therefore, of incalculable value. All processes, even those of thought, rest on solid foundations.

The powers, uses, and possibilities of the mind under the new interpretations are incomparably more wonderful that the most extravagant accomplishment, or even dreams of material progress.
Thought is energy. Active thought is active energy; concentrated thought is a concentrated energy. Thought concentrated on a definite purpose becomes power. This is the power which is being used by those who do not believe in the virtue of poverty, or the beauty of self-denial. They perceive that this is the talk of weaklings.

Thinking is the only activity which the spirit possesses, and thought is the only product of thinking. Addition and subtraction are therefore spiritual transactions; reasoning is a spiritual process; ideas are spiritual conceptions; questions are spiritual searchlights and logic, argument and philosophy is spiritual machinery.

This is the process by which failure is changed to success. Thoughts of courage, power, inspiration, harmony, are substituted for thoughts of failure, despair, lack, limitation and discord, and as these thoughts take root, the physical tissue is changed and the individual sees life in a new light, old things have actually passed away, all things have become new, he is born again, this time born of the spirit, life has a new meaning for him, he is reconstructed and is filled with joy, confidence, hope, energy. He sees opportunities for success to which he was heretofore blind. He recognizes possibilities which before had no meaning for him.

The thoughts of success with which he has been impregnated are radiated to those around him, and they in turn help him onward and upward; he attracts to him new and successful associates, and this in turn changes his environment; so that by this simple exercise of thought, a man changes not only himself, but his environment, circumstances and conditions.
Mind is creative, and conditions, environment and all experiences in life are the result of our habitual or predominant mental attitude.
The attitude of mind necessarily depends upon what we think.

Therefore, the secret of all power, all achievement and all possession depends upon our method of thinking.

The world within is governed by mind. When we discover this world we shall find the solution for every problem, the cause for every effect; and, since the world within is subject to our control, all laws of power and possession are also within our control.
The world without is a reflection of the world within. What appears without is what has been found within. In the world within may be found infinite Wisdom, infinite Power, and an infinite Supply of all that is necessary, waiting for unfoldment, development and expression. If we recognize these potentialities in the world within, they will take form in the world without.

Harmony in the world within will be reflected in the world without by harmonious conditions, agreeable surroundings, the best of everything. It is the foundation of health and a necessary essential to all greatness, all power, all attainment, all achievement and all success. Harmony in the world within means the ability to control our thoughts, and to determine for ourselves how any experience is to affect us. Harmony in the world within results in optimism and affluence; affluence within results in affluence without.

The world without reflects the circumstances and the conditions of the consciousness within. If we find wisdom in the world within, we shall have the understanding to discern the marvelous possibilities that are latent in this world within, and we shall be given the power to make these possibilities manifest in the world without.

As we become conscious of the wisdom in the world within, we mentally take possession of this wisdom, and by taking mental possession we come into actual possession of the power and wisdom necessary to bring into manifestation the essentials necessary for our most complete and harmonious development.

The world within is the practical world in which the men and women of power generate courage, hope, enthusiasm, confidence, trust and faith, by which they are given the fine intelligence to see the vision and the practical skill to make the vision real.

Therefore life is an unfoldment, not accretion. All possession is based on consciousness. All gain is the result of an accumulative consciousness.

As a being of Power, Intelligence, and Love, and the lord of his own thoughts, man holds the key to every situation, and contains within himself that transforming and regenerative agency by which he may make himself what he wills.

Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. Accept the place the divine providence has found for you, the society of your contemporaries, the connection of events. Great men have always done so, and confided themselves childlike to the genius of their age, betraying their perception that the absolutely trustworthy was seated at their heart, working through their hands, predominating in all their being.

Ask nothing of men, and in the endless mutation, thou only firm column must presently appear the upholder of all that surrounds thee. He who knows that power is inborn, that he is weak because he has looked for good out of him and elsewhere, and so perceiving, throws himself unhesitatingly on his thought, instantly rights himself, stands in the erect position, commands his limbs, works miracles; just as a man who stands on his feet is stronger than a man who stands on his head.

And truly it demands something godlike in him who has cast off the common motives of humanity, and has ventured to trust himself for a taskmaster. High be his heart, faithful his will, clear his sight, that he may in good earnest be doctrine, society, law, to himself, that a simple purpose may be to him as strong as iron necessity is to others!

Insist on yourself; never imitate. Your own gift you can present every moment with the cumulative force of a whole life’s cultivation; but of the adopted talent of another, you have only an extemporaneous, half possession. That which each can do best, none but his Maker can teach him. No man yet knows what it is, nor can, till that person has exhibited it.

Where is the master who could have taught Shakespeare? Where is the master who could have instructed Franklin, or Washington, or Bacon, or Newton? Every great man is a unique. The Scipionism of Scipio is precisely that part he could not borrow. Shakespeare will never be made by the study of Shakespeare.

Do that which is assigned to you, and you cannot hope too much or dare too much. There is at this “moment for you an utterance brave and grand as that of the colossal chisel of Phidias, or trowel of the Egyptians, or the pen of Moses, or Dante,but different from all these. Not possible will the soul all rich, all eloquent, with thousand-cloven tongue, deign to repeat itself; but if you can hear what these patriarchs say, surely you can reply to them in the same pitch of voice; for the ear and the tongue are two organs of one nature. Abide in the simple and noble regions of thy life, obey thy heart, and thou shalt reproduce the Fore-world again.

Every true man is a cause, a country, and an age; requires infinite spaces and numbers and time fully to accomplish his design. The magnetism which all original action exerts is explained when we inquire the reason of self-trust. Who is the Trustee? What is the aboriginal Self, on which a universal reliance may be grounded? What is the nature and power of that science-baffling star, without parallax, without calculable elements, which shoots a ray of beauty even into trivial and impure actions, if the least mark of independence appear? The inquiry leads us to that source, at once the essence of genius, of virtue, and of life, which we call Spontaneity or Instinct.

We denote this primary wisdom as Intuition, whilst all later teachings are tuitions. In that deep force, the last fact behind which analysis cannot go, all things find their common origin. For the sense of being which in calm hours rises, we know not how, in the soul, is not diverse from things, from space, from light, from time, from man, but one with them, and proceeds obviously from the same source whence their life and being also proceed.

We first share the life by which things exist, and afterwards see them as appearances in nature, and forget that we have shared their cause. Here is the fountain of action and of thought. Here are the lungs of that inspiration which giveth man wisdom, and which cannot be denied without impiety and atheism.

We lie in the lap of immense intelligence, which makes us receivers of its truth and organs of its activity. When we discern justice, when we discern truth, we do nothing of ourselves, but allow a passage to its beams. If we ask whence this comes, if we seek to pry into the soul that causes, all philosophy is at fault. Its presence or its absence is all we can affirm.

The relations of the soul to the divine spirit are so pure, that it is profane to seek to interpose helps. It must be that when God speaketh he should communicate, not one thing, but all things; should fill the world with his voice; should scatter forth light, nature, time, souls, from the center of the present thought; and new date and new create the whole.

Whenever a mind is simple, and receives a divine wisdom, old things pass away,—means, teachers, texts, temples, fall; it lives now, and absorbs past and future into the present hour. All things are made sacred by relation to it,—one as much as another. All things are dissolved to their center by their cause, and, in the universal miracle, petty and particular miracles disappear.
When good is near you, when you have life in yourself, it is not by any known or accustomed way; you shall not discern the footprints of any other; you shall not see the face of man; you shall not hear any name;—the way, the thought, the good, shall be wholly strange and new. It shall exclude example and experience.

You take the way from man, not to man. All persons that ever existed are its forgotten ministers. Fear and hope are alike beneath it. There is somewhat low even in hope. In the hour of vision, there is nothing that can be called gratitude, nor properly joy. The soul raised over passion beholds identity and eternal causation, perceives the self-existence of Truth and Right, and calms itself with knowing that all things go well. Vast spaces of nature, the Atlantic Ocean, the South Sea,—long intervals of time, years, centuries,—are of no account. This which I think and feel underlay every former state of life and circumstances, as it does underlie my present, and what is called life, and what is called death.

Self-existence is the attribute of the Supreme Cause, and it constitutes the measure of good by the degree in which it enters into all lower forms. All things real are so by so much virtue as they contain.

Thus all concentrates: let us not rove; let us sit at home with the cause. Let us stun and astonish the intruding rabble of men and books and institutions, by a simple declaration of the divine fact. Bid the invaders take the shoes from off their feet, for God is here within. Let our simplicity judge them, and our docility to our own law demonstrate the poverty of nature and fortune beside our native riches.

So use all that is called Fortune. Most men gamble with her, and gain all, and lose all, as her wheel rolls. But do thou leave as unlawful these winnings, and deal with Cause and Effect, the chancelors of God. In the Will work and acquire, and thou hast chained the wheel of Chance, and shalt sit hereafter out of fear from her rotations.




There is a single, intelligent Consciousness that pervades the entire Universe – the Universal Mind. It is all knowing, all powerful, all creative and always present. As it is present everywhere at the same time, it follows that it must also be present in you – that it is you. Your mind is part of the one Universal Mind. This is not simply a philosophical ideal passed down to us through the ages. It is an exact scientific truth. Know it, believe it, apply it and you will see your life transform in miraculous ways.

Albert Einstein told us that “everything is energy”; that “a human being is a part of the whole called by us [the] Universe”. His words echoed the most ancient of spiritual and philosophical teachings and still underpin today’s cutting-edge scientific discoveries. The Universal Mind goes by many names. In the scientific world we know of the Unified Field, in spiritual philosophy we refer to The All or Universal Consciousness and in religion we call upon God who Himself goes by many names – Jehovah, Allah and Brahman to mention but a few. The name is relevant only in so far as it resonates with you.

Whichever way you cut it, you come to this one unavoidable conclusion: there is but One Consciousness of which your consciousness must be a part and “a part”, as Charles Haanel said, “must be the same in kind and quality as the whole, the only difference being one of degree”.

The nature of the Universal Mind is Omniscience (all knowing), Omnipotence (all powerful), Omnificence (all creative) and Omnipresence (always present). Know that this too is your nature. You have access to all knowledge, known and unknown; you have access to an infinite power for which nothing is impossible; you have access to the limitless creativity of the One Creator. All these attributes are present within you at all times in their potential form.

It is up to you to know and act upon your own nature. The inscription on the Ancient Greek Temple of Apollo at Delphi left no room for misunderstanding: “Know thyself and thou shalt know all the mysteries of the gods and the universe”. It is through the power of your subconscious mind and your higher self that you can learn to align yourself with the Omnipotence, Omniscience and Omnificence of the Universal Mind at all times.

Each and every one of us is a manifestation of this single Universal Consciousness. There is profound truth in the ancient teaching that we are all One. We are all connected – not only to each other but to all of Nature and to everything in the Universe. This is the Law of One. What you do to others, you do to yourself. The way you treat Nature, you in fact treat yourself. The separateness you “see” is an illusion of the personality ego. The true nature of reality is non-dualistic, meaning that while things may appear distinct, they are not separate.

You are able to create your ideal reality because you are already connected to everything you want. Nothing and no one is separate from you. You can experience happiness, true love, perfect health, abundance, wealth and anything else you intend. All you have to do is bring yourself into vibrational harmony with the nature of that which you want to experience through the creative power of your thoughts. To become the master of your destiny, you must master your thoughts.

In a nutshell, there is a single Consciousness, the Universal Mind, which pervades the entire Universe. It is all knowing, all powerful, all creative and always present everywhere at the same time. Your consciousness is part of it – it is It. All is One. You are connected to everything and every one. You are already connected what you want. To the degree that you truly comprehend and internalise this Truth, you will be able to become the master of your mind and the director of your life.


To consciously attract anything you want to experience into your life, you must need it, not simply desire, that which you want. To need something is to have a purpose for it and when something has a big enough purpose, it becomes a necessity rather than a luxury. You are able to attract anything you need to yourself because you are already connected to everything, seen and unseen. Nothing and no one is separate from you. The sense of separation we experience in the physical world is created by the way our five senses interpret this infinite sea of vibrating energy. You are one with the One Universal Mind from which all things become manifest. The creative power of your thoughts is limitless within in the realm of that which is possible.

Attention or concentration is probably the most important essential in the development of mind culture. The possibilities of attention when properly directed are so startling that they would hardly appear credible to the uninitiated. The cultivation of attention is the distinguishing characteristic of every successful man or woman, and is the very highest personal accomplishment which can be acquired.

The first step is idealization. It is likewise the most important step, because it is the plan on which you are going to build. It must be solid; it must be permanent. The architect, when he plans a 30-story building, has every line and detail pictured in advance. The engineer, when he spans a chasm, first ascertains the strength requirements of a million separate parts.

They see the end before a single step is taken; so you are to picture in your mind what you want. You are sowing the seed, but before sowing any seed you want to know what the harvest is to be. This is Idealization. If you are not sure, return to the chair daily until the picture becomes plain; it will gradually unfold. First the general plan will be dim, but it will take shape, the outline will take form, then the details, and you will gradually develop the power by which you will be enabled to formulate plans which will eventually materialize in the objective world. You will come to know what the future holds for you.

Create ideals only, give no thought to external conditions, make the world within beautiful and opulent and the world without will express and manifest the condition which you have within. You will come into a realization of your power to create ideals and these ideals will be projected into the world of effect.

Then comes the process of visualization. You must see the picture more and more complete, see the detail, and, as the details begin to unfold the ways and means or bringing it into manifestation will develop. One thing will lead to another. Thought will lead to action, action will develop methods, methods will develop friends, and friends will bring about circumstances, and, finally, the third step, or Materialization, will have been accomplished.

Clarity and accuracy are obtained only by repeatedly having the image in mind. Each repeated action renders the image more clear and accurate than the preceding, and in proportion to the clarity and accuracy of the image will the outward manifestation be. You must build it firmly and securely in your mental world, the world within, before it can take form in the world without, and you can build nothing of value, even in the mental world unless you have the proper material. When you have the material you can build anything you wish, but make sure of your material. You cannot make broadcloth from shoddy.

Make the Mental Image. Make it clear, distinct, perfect. Hold it firmly. The ways and means will develop. Supply will follow the demand. You will be led to do the right thing at the right time and in the right way. Earnest Desire will bring about Confident Expectation, and this in turn must be reinforced by Firm Demand. These three cannot fail to bring about Attainment, because the Earnest Desire is the feeling, the Confident Expectation is the thought, and the Firm Demand is the will, and, as we have seen, feeling gives vitality to thought and the will holds it steadily until the law of Growth brings it into manifestation.

The imagination will be found to be a great assistance in this direction; the cultivation of the imagination leads to the development of the ideal out of which your future will emerge.
The imagination gathers up the material by which the Mind weaves the fabric in which your future is to be clothed.

Imagination is the light by which we can penetrate new worlds of thought and experience.
Imagination is the mighty instrument by which every discoverer, every inventor, opened the way from precedent to experience. Precedent said, “It cannot be done,” experience said, “It is done.”
Imagination is a plastic power, molding the things of sense into new forms and ideals.
Imagination is the constructive form of thought which must precede every constructive form of action.
A builder cannot build a structure of any kind until he has first received the plans from the architect, and the architect must get them from his imagination.

The Captain of Industry cannot build a giant corporation which may coordinate hundreds of smaller corporations and thousands of employees, and utilize millions of dollars of capital until he has first created the entire work in his imagination. Objects in the material world are as clay in the potter’s hand; it is in the Master Mind that the real things are created, and it is by the use of the imagination that the work is done. In order to cultivate the imagination it must be exercised. Exercise is necessary to cultivate mental muscle as well as physical muscle. It must be supplied with nourishment or it cannot grow.

Do not confuse Imagination with Fancy, or that form of day-dreaming in which some people like to indulge. Day-dreaming is a form of mental dissipation which may lead to mental disaster.
Constructive imagination means mental labor, considered by some to be the hardest kind of labor, but, if so, it yields the greatest returns, for all the great things in life have come to men and women who had the capacity to think, to imagine, and to make their dreams come true.

When you have become thoroughly conscious of the fact that Mind is the only creative principle, that it is Omnipotent, Omniscient, and Omnipresent, and that you can consciously come into harmony with this Omnipotence through your power of thought, you will have taken a long step in the right direction.
The next step is to place yourself in position to receive this power. As it is Omnipresent, it must be within you. We know that this is so because we know that all power is from within, but it must be developed, unfolded, cultivated. In order to do this we must be receptive, and this receptivity is acquired just as physical strength is gained, by exercise.

The Law of Attraction will certainly and unerringly bring to you the conditions, environment, and experiences in life, corresponding with your habitual, characteristic, predominant mental attitude. Not what you think once in a while when you are in church, or have just read a good book, BUT your predominant mental attitude is what counts.

All mistakes are but the mistakes of ignorance. Knowledge gaining and consequent power is what determines growth and evolution. The recognition and demonstration of knowledge is what constitutes power, and this power is spiritual power, and this spiritual power is the power which lies at the heart of all things; it is the soul of the Universe.

This knowledge is the result of man’s ability to think; thought is therefore the germ of man’s conscious evolution. When man ceases to advance in his thoughts and ideals, his forces immediately begin to disintegrate and his countenance gradually registers these changing conditions.

Successful men make it their business to hold ideals of the conditions which they wish to realize. They constantly hold in mind the next step necessary to the ideal for which they are striving. Thoughts are the materials with which they build, and the imagination is their mental work-shop. Mind is the ever moving force with which they secure the persons and circumstance necessary to build their success structure, and imagination is the matrix in which all great things are fashioned.

If you have been faithful to your ideal, you will hear the call when circumstances are ready to materialize your plans and results will correspond in the exact ratio of your fidelity to your ideal. The ideal steadily held is what pre-determines and attracts the necessary conditions for its fulfilment.
It is thus that you may weave a garment of spirit and power into the web of your entire existence. It is thus that you may lead a charmed life and be forever protected from all harm. It is thus that you may become a positive force whereby conditions of opulence and harmony may be attracted to you.

The law is that Thought is an active vital form of dynamic energy which has the power to correlate with its object and bring it out of the invisible substance from which all things are created into the visible or objective world. This is the law by which, and through which all things come into manifestation;

It could not be otherwise. If the soul of the Universe as we know it is the Universal Spirit, then the Universe is simply the condition which the Universal Spirit has made for itself. We are simply individualized spirit and are creating the conditions for our growth in exactly the same way.
This creative power depends upon our recognition of the potential power of spirit or mind and must not be confused with Evolution. Creation is the calling into existence of that which does not exist in the objective world. Evolution is simply the unfolding of potentialities involved in things which already exist.

In taking advantage of the wonderful possibilities opened up to us through the operation of this law, we must remember that we ourselves contribute nothing to its efficacy as the Great Teacher said: “It is not I that doeth the works, but the Father that dwelleth in me, He doeth the work”. We must take exactly the same position; we can do nothing to assist in the manifestation, we simply comply with the law, and the All-originating Mind will bring about the result.

The great error of the present day is the idea that Man has to originate the intelligence whereby the Infinite can proceed to bring about a specific purpose or result. Nothing of this kind is necessary; the Universal Mind can be depended upon to find the ways and means for bringing about any necessary manifestation. We must, however, create the ideal, and this ideal should be perfect.

Constructive thought must necessarily be creative, but creative thought must be harmonious, and this eliminates all destructive or competitive thought. Wisdom, strength, courage, and all harmonious conditions are the result of power and we have seen that all power is from within; likewise, every lack, limitation or adverse circumstance is the result of weakness, and weakness is simply absence of power; it comes from nowhere, it is nothing – the remedy then is simply to develop power, and this is accomplished in exactly the same manner that all power is developed, by exercise.

We are first to believe that our desire has already been fulfilled; its accomplishment will then follow.
This is a concise direction for making use of the creative power of thought by impressing on the Universal subjective mind, the particular thing which we desire as an already existing fact.
We are thus thinking on the plane of the absolute and eliminating all consideration of conditions or limitation and are planting a seed which, if left undisturbed, will finally germinate into external fruition.

The law is that thought will correlate with its object and bring forth in the material world the correspondence of the thing thought or produced in the mental world. We then discern the absolute necessity of seeing that every thought has the inherent germ of truth in order that the law of growth will bring into manifestation good, for good alone can confer any permanent power.

The principle which gives the thought the dynamic power to correlate with its object, and therefore to master every adverse human experience, is the Law of Attraction, which is another name for love. This is an eternal and fundamental principle, inherent in all things, in every system of Philosophy, in every Religion, and in every Science. There is no getting away from the law of love. It is feeling that imparts vitality to thought. Feeling is desire, and desire is love. Thought impregnated with love becomes invincible.

Things are created in the mental or spiritual world before they appear in the outward act or event. By the simple process of governing our thought forces today, we help create the events which will come into our lives in the future, perhaps even tomorrow. Educated desire is the most potent means of bringing into action the Law of Attraction.

Man is so constituted that he must first create the tools, or implements by which he gains the power to think. The mind cannot comprehend an entirely new idea until a corresponding vibratory brain cell has been prepared to receive it. This explains why it is so difficult for us to receive or appreciate an entirely new idea. We have no brain cell capable of receiving it and we are therefore incredulous. We do not believe it.

If, therefore, you have not been familiar with the Omnipotence of the Law of Attraction, and the scientific method by which it can be put into operation, or if you have not been familiar with the unlimited possibilities which it opens to those who are enabled to take advantage of the resources it offers, begin now and create the necessary brain cells which will enable you to comprehend the unlimited powers which may be yours by cooperating with Natural Law. This is done by concentration or attention.

The intention governs the attention. Power comes through repose. It is by concentration that deep thoughts, wise speech, and all forces of high potentiality are accomplished.
It is in the Silence that you get into touch with the Omnipotent power of the subconscious mind from which all power is evolved.

He who desires wisdom, power, or permanent success of any kind will find it only within; it is an unfoldment. The unthinking may conclude that the silence is very simple and easily attained, but it should be remembered that only in absolute silence may one come into contact with Divinity itself, may learn of the unchangeable law, and open for himself the channels by which persistent practice and concentration lead to perfection.

Each and every one of us is a manifestation of this single Universal Consciousness. There is profound truth in the ancient teaching that we are all One. We are all connected – not only to each other but to all of Nature and to everything in the Universe. This is the Law of One. What you do to others, you do to yourself. The way you treat Nature, you in fact treat yourself. The separateness you “see” is an illusion of the personality ego. The true nature of reality is non-dualistic, meaning that while things may appear distinct, they are not separate.

You are able to create your ideal reality because you are already connected to everything you want. Nothing and no one is separate from you. You can experience happiness, true love, perfect health, abundance, wealth and anything else you intend. All you have to do is bring yourself into vibrational harmony with the nature of that which you want to experience through the creative power of your thoughts. To become the master of your destiny, you must master your thoughts.

In a nutshell, there is a single Consciousness, the Universal Mind, which pervades the entire Universe. It is all knowing, all powerful, all creative and always present everywhere at the same time. Your consciousness is part of it – it is It. All is One. You are connected to everything and every one. You are already connected to what you want. To the degree that you truly comprehend and internalise this Truth, you will be able to become the master of your mind and the director of your life.

In assessing the role of the mind in creating the physical reality we become aware that if the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. It’s all in your mind. I think, therefore I am. I observe, therefore you exist.
Consciousness creates the manifest world.The universe is self-aware, but it is self-aware through us, through our individual consciousness.

There is a biological character involved with the informational processing of organisms, one that sees life able to shape its environment in a partnership with it. In the biological realm the phenomena that manifest are governed not only by what is physically possible, but also by which of those physically permitted possibilities are likely to be of overall benefit to the organism concerned.

The human brain acts as an amazing filter, accepting and rejecting information and stimuli based upon our survival needs. You could say we operate on a strictly “need-to- know” basis, with our brain acting as the sentry at the gate, refusing entry to anything that we just plain don’t need to understand. People who are able to shift their perception thus shift their “need-to-know” basis to include things they did not perceive before. If you don’t need to see it, you won’t see it.

The material world of quantum physics is only a possibility and through the conversion of possibility into actuality, consciousness creates the manifest world.The universe is self-aware, but it is self-aware through us, through our individual consciousness.

All that I see, hear, taste, touch, smell and feel has been created from the data received by my sensory organs. All I ever know of the world around are the mental images constructed from that data. However real and external they may seem, they are all phenomena within my mind.

This simple fact is very hard to grasp; it goes against all our experience. If there is anything about which we feel sure, it is that the world we experience is real. We can see, touch and hear it. We can lift heavy and solid objects; hurt ourselves, if we’re not careful, against their unyielding immobility. It seems undeniable that out there, around us, independent and apart from us, stands a physical world, utterly real, solid and tangible.

But the world of our experience is no more “out there” than are our dreams. When we dream we create a reality in which events happen around us, and in which we perceive other people as individuals separate from us. In the dream it all seems very real. But when we awaken we realize that everything in the dream was actually a creation of our own mind.

The same process of reality generation occurs in waking consciousness. The difference is that now the reality that is created is based on sensory data and bears a closer relationship to what is taking place in the real world. Nevertheless, however real it may seem, it is not actually “the real world”. It is still an image of that world created in the mind.

Whatever that reality is, it exists apart from our perception of it. When I see a tree there is something that has given rise to my perception. But I can never directly perceive this something. All I can ever know of it is the image appearing in my mind.

Similarly with light. Whatever the tree is in physical reality, it is not green. Light of various frequencies is reflected from the tree to the retina of the eye, where cells respond to the amount of light in three frequency ranges (the three primary colors). But all that is passed back to the brain are electro-chemical impulses; there is no color here. The green I see is a quality created in consciousness. It exists only in the mind.

The same is true of our perception of distance. The pattern of light that falls on the retina creates a two-dimensional image of the world. The brain estimates distance by detecting slight differences between data from the left and right eyes, the focus of the eyes, relative movement, and past experience as to the likely size of a tree. From this data it calculates that the tree is fifty feet away. A three-dimensional image of the world is then created with the tree placed “out there” in that world, fifty feet away. Yet, however real it may seem, the quality of space and distance that we experience is created in the mind

When we speak of “the material world”, we think we are referring to the underlying reality, the object of our perception. In fact we are only describing our image of reality. The materiality we observe, the solidness we feel, the whole of the “real world” that we know, are, like color, sound, smell, and all the other qualities we experience, qualities manifesting in the mind. This is the startling conclusion we are forced to acknowledge; the “stuff” of our world—the world we know and appear to live within—is not matter, but mind.

Observing the distinction between the reality generated in the mind, and the underlying reality in the final analysis concludes that consciousness is the essence of everything—everything in the known universe. It is the medium from which every aspect of our experience manifests. Every form and quality we ever experience in the world is an appearance within consciousness.

Most of the time we are not aware of this distinction. We tacitly assume that things are as they appear, and that we are experiencing the world as it is. We think that the tree we see is the tree in itself. When we realize that they are not the same thing at all, but are very different indeed, a revolutionary new model of reality emerges.

Space, time and matter fall from their absolute status, to be replaced by light in the physical realm, and by consciousness (the inner light) in the world of experience. Instead of matter being primary, and the source of everything we know, including mind;consciousness becomes primary, and the source of everything, including matter, as we know it .


Until thought is linked with purpose there is no intelligent accomplishment.

A man should conceive of a legitimate purpose in his heart, and set out to accomplish it. He should make this purpose the centralizing point of his thoughts. It may take the form of a spiritual ideal, or it may be a worldly object, according to his nature at the time being; but whichever it is, he should steadily focus his thought-forces upon the object, which he has set before him.

He should make this purpose his supreme duty, and should devote himself to its attainment, not allowing his thoughts to wander away into ephemeral fancies, longings, and imaginings. This is the royal road to self-control and true concentration of thought. Even if he fails again and again to accomplish his purpose (as he necessarily must until weakness is overcome), the strength of character gained will be the measure of his true success, and this will form a new starting-point for future power and triumph.

Those who are not prepared for the apprehension of a great purpose should fix the thoughts upon the faultless performance of their duty, no matter how insignificant their task may appear. Only in this way can the thoughts be gathered and focussed, and resolution and energy be developed, which being done, there is nothing which may not be accomplished.

To put away aimlessness and weakness, and to begin to think with purpose, is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment; who make all conditions serve them, and who think strongly, attempt fearlessly, and accomplish masterfully.

Having conceived of his purpose, a man should mentally mark out a straight pathway to its achievement, looking neither to the right nor the left. Doubts and fears should be rigorously excluded; they are disintegrating elements, which break up the straight line of effort, rendering it crooked, ineffectual, useless.

Thoughts of doubt and fear never accomplished anything, and never can. They always lead to failure. Purpose, energy, power to do, and all strong thoughts cease when doubt and fear creep in.

He who has conquered doubt and fear has conquered failure. His every thought is allied with power, and all difficulties are bravely met and wisely overcome. His purposes are seasonably planted, and they bloom and bring forth fruit, which does not fall prematurely to the ground.

Thought allied fearlessly to purpose becomes creative force: he who knows this is ready to become something higher and stronger than a mere bundle of wavering thoughts and fluctuating sensations; he who does this has become the conscious and intelligent wielder of his mental powers.

ALL that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts. In a justly ordered universe, where loss of equipoise would mean total destruction, individual responsibility must be absolute.

A man’s weakness and strength, purity and impurity, are his own, and not another man’s; they are brought about by himself, and not by another; and they can only be altered by himself, never by another.

His condition is also his own, and not another man’s. His suffering and his happiness are evolved from within. As he thinks, so he is; as he continues to think, so he remains.

All achievements, whether in the business, intellectual, or spiritual world, are the result of definitely directed thought, are governed by the same law and are of the same method; the only difference lies in the object of attainment.


There is a single, intelligent Consciousness that pervades the entire Universe – the Universal Mind. It is all knowing, all powerful, all creative and always present. As it is present everywhere at the same time, it follows that it must also be present in you – that it is you. Your mind is part of the one Universal Mind. This is not simply a philosophical ideal passed down to us through the ages. It is an exact scientific truth. Know it, believe it, apply it and you will see your life transform in miraculous ways.

Albert Einstein told us that “everything is energy”; that “a human being is a part of the whole called by us [the] Universe”. His words echoed the most ancient of spiritual and philosophical teachings and still underpin today’s cutting-edge scientific discoveries. The Universal Mind goes by many names. In the scientific world we know of the Unified Field, in spiritual philosophy we refer to The All or Universal Consciousness and in religion we call upon God who Himself goes by many names – Jehovah, Allah and Brahman to mention but a few. The name is relevant only in so far as it resonates with you.

Whichever way you cut it, you come to this one unavoidable conclusion: there is but One Consciousness of which your consciousness must be a part and “a part”, as Charles Haanel said, “must be the same in kind and quality as the whole, the only difference being one of degree”.

The nature of the Universal Mind is Omniscience (all knowing), Omnipotence (all powerful), Omnificence (all creative) and Omnipresence (always present). Know that this too is your nature. You have access to all knowledge, known and unknown; you have access to an infinite power for which nothing is impossible; you have access to the limitless creativity of the One Creator. All these attributes are present within you at all times in their potential form.

It is up to you to know and act upon your own nature. The inscription on the Ancient Greek Temple of Apollo at Delphi left no room for misunderstanding: “Know thyself and thou shalt know all the mysteries of the gods and the universe”. It is through the power of your subconscious mind and your higher self that you can learn to align yourself with the Omnipotence, Omniscience and Omnificence of the Universal Mind at all times.

Each and every one of us is a manifestation of this single Universal Consciousness. There is profound truth in the ancient teaching that we are all One. We are all connected – not only to each other but to all of Nature and to everything in the Universe. This is the Law of One. What you do to others, you do to yourself. The way you treat Nature, you in fact treat yourself. The separateness you “see” is an illusion of the personality ego. The true nature of reality is non-dualistic, meaning that while things may appear distinct, they are not separate.

You are able to create your ideal reality because you are already connected to everything you want. Nothing and no one is separate from you. You can experience happiness, true love, perfect health, abundance, wealth and anything else you intend. All you have to do is bring yourself into vibrational harmony with the nature of that which you want to experience through the creative power of your thoughts. To become the master of your destiny, you must master your thoughts.

In a nutshell, there is a single Consciousness, the Universal Mind, which pervades the entire Universe. It is all knowing, all powerful, all creative and always present everywhere at the same time. Your consciousness is part of it – it is It. All is One. You are connected to everything and every one. You are already connected what you want. To the degree that you truly comprehend and internalise this Truth, you will be able to become the master of your mind and the director of your life.

The Law of Attraction Explained

The Law of Attraction really works! But a lot of people have turned it into a marketing gimmick, hoping to part you from your money by promising Secrets, Magic Codes, and 10-step formulas for wealth, success, or happiness. No one with integrity would try to do that, because you and I know that there are no such formulas. If there were, some brainiac would have discovered it thousands of years ago!

You have arrived at this website in all probability because you are interested in a serious and intelligent approach to universal principles. If you are interested in finding out how to make the Law of Attraction work in your life without any marketing gobbledegook or persuasion techniques, you have come to the right place.

The first question to answer is, does the Law of Attraction really exist? The answer is yes, but do not look for scientific corroboration. I have studied science all of my life, but almost no self-respecting scientist will ever go beyond the boundaries of their theories, or the current literature. Science is rooted in the current paradigm of thought, but a new paradigm is slowly advancing in the consciousness of humanity, a new way of looking at the world and the universe that will overturn many of the cherished laws of current science. The Law of Attraction, interestingly, underlies all of science, for the way one approaches the study of the universe is a direct consequence of what one resonates to. That which is like unto itself is drawn, and this applies to science as well as life itself.

Look around at the world we live in. Do you see prosperous, sane societies with healthy populations? Or predominantly poor, stressed-out populations just struggling to survive? A planetary society based on universal principles would look like the former, not the latter. This tells us that mankind has divorced himself from universal law.

The lesson of the past 5,000 years of human history is that a true paradigm shift in consciousness cannot come about only through scientific ideas. Copernicus’s realization that the earth revolves about the sun, Einstein’s theory of relativity, and quantum mechanics have revolutionized the way we view the universe. However, these great ideas have not led to spiritual and emotional advancement. We are still exploiting and killing each other in the 21st century just as we did in 3000 BC.

What is needed is a shift of consciousness on a broad scale.

Fortunately, the human population in now approaching a sort of “critical mass” and the people are awakening. For a brief period of time, we have a unique opportunity to change the current destructive paradigm, and create a new world, with new ideas about life and the universe. The Law of Attraction is one of these new ideas! But in order to use it successfully in your life, you have to understand what it is.

Universal laws exist. These laws are so powerful that they cannot be taught in schools, for if they were, the current paradigm of follow-the-leader, hard work, struggle, and competition would vanish almost instantly. And that would upset the apple cart of the status quo.

The fact is that an understanding of universal principles can make your life better. You don’t have to be a genius to apply them, because everyone instinctively comprehends them. They are woven into the very fabric of your being; and the fabric of the universe as well.

If you have researched this subject at all, you are probably aware of the plethora of universal laws out there. The fact is, however, that these myriad “laws” are subsets of 5 fundamental principles. Once you understand these five, you can make a lot more sense of the sometimes confusing self-help jargon.

The Law of Attraction is one of the five universal laws, a fundamental property of this universe. It works in concert with the other four and in order to fully comprehend its power, it is necessary to know how the Law of Attraction fits in with the others.

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“True love is inspiring people to see their greater potential.” –John Payne

In accordance with the Law of Attraction, you attract into your life those things, circumstances and conditions that correspond with the nature of your dominant, habitual thoughts and beliefs, both conscious and subconscious. Every area of your life, including your health, your finances and all of your relationships, are influenced by this great Universal Law that “like attracts like”. Eugene Fersen, in the Science of Being, referred to the Law of Attraction as “the Basic Law of the Universe”.

What Frequency Are You On: Everything, including yourself, your thoughts and anything else you may or may not want to experience, is pure energy vibrating at different frequencies. The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that like energy attracts like energy. You attract to yourself that which you are in vibrational harmony with, not that which you long for or even deserve. Your dominant frequency is determined by your dominant mental attitude, which itself is determined by your habitual thoughts and beliefs. Simply put, a positive mental attitude attracts positive experiences and circumstances while a negative mental attitude attracts those conditions that we deem negative or unwanted.

You Can Attract Anything You Need: To consciously attract anything you want to experience into your life, you must need it, not simply desire, that which you want. To need something is to have a purpose for it and when something has a big enough purpose, it becomes a necessity rather than a luxury. You are able to attract anything you need to yourself because you are already connected to everything, seen and unseen. Nothing and no one is separate from you. The sense of separation we experience in the physical world is created by the way our five senses interpret this infinite sea of vibrating energy. You are one with the One Universal Mind from which all things become manifest. The creative power of your thoughts is limitless within in the realm of that which is possible.

Changing Your Frequency: To consciously attract that which you choose into your life you must learn to bring the energy of your thoughts and hence your actions into vibrational harmony with the essence of your choice, be it perfect health, success, abundance, true love or anything else. Creative visualization is the basic technique by which you can positively and effectively reprogramme your subconscious mind and so begin to attract to yourself those things and circumstances that you consciously choose.

Don’t Play the Blame Game: Understanding the Law of Attraction is not about blaming yourself or anyone else for the negative or unwanted conditions in your life. Getting caught up in this blame game would only serve to attract more of those things that you do not want. Instead, this knowledge is intended to empower you to take full responsibility for your current conditions by understanding the attraction power of your thoughts. Know that by taking responsibility for your life, you also grant yourself the power to change it.

Matchmaker, Matchmaker Bring Me My Match: The bottom line is that you attract to yourself that which you think about (a lot). There is no judgement call involved about whether a particular thought is “good” or “bad” or whether its corresponding circumstance is “deserved” or “undeserved”. The Law of Attraction is neutral. It does not judge, punish or reward. It simply serves to bring like energy together. Think of it as the great matchmaker. You submit your criteria via your habitual thoughts and beliefs and it brings you your perfect vibratory match, every time.

You Do Not Have to Figure it All Out: You do not have to learn to work with or apply the Law of Attraction. Being a Universal Law, it is already working perfectly in your life, whether or not you understand or accept it, and it never ceases to operate. Your primary goal is to adjust your mental attitude by changing your predominant thoughts and beliefs while creating a need or purpose for that which you want to create in your life. To become the master of your life, you must master your mind, not the Law of Attraction. It is already a master unto itself.

One Piece of the Universal Puzzle: Although much focus has been rightly given to the Law of Attraction, more so since the success of the works of Abraham-Hicks and Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret, it is not the full picture. The Law of Attraction is the basic Universal Law which holds everything together but there are another seven Universal Laws referred to in the ancient mystical and secret teachings. By understanding all the Laws of the Universe, you will be able to understand the true nature of reality and how you can experience the life you intend. The Law of Attraction is a major stepping stone in that direction but do not be misled into believing that it is the only one.

To experience profound transformation in any area of your life, you must first become conscious of the truth that the circumstances of your outside world correspond precisely with the nature of your inner world and are attracted to you by the Law of Attraction. According to this Universal Law, like energy attracts like energy. You do not need to learn to apply it or work with it because it always does whether you understand it or not. To attract anything you intend into your life you must learn to bring your thoughts and your actions into vibrational harmony with the essence of your choice and leave the rest up to the Law of Attraction. Essentially, all you need to do is work on yourself.

The Law of Attraction: An Overview

The Law of Attraction states that ‘like attracts like.’ But what does this mean and how does it apply to situations in life? Let’s take Rick and Sam. Both of them are tired of their job as salesmen for a big corporation, and both want to start a new business. Sam thinks that it would be a great idea, but that it’s really impossible.

Rick decides that although he has no employees, infrastructure, or money, it’s going to happen. On the way home from a conference in another city, Sam is sitting next to Bill. Sam is tired and grumpy, thinking about his crummy job and how he wants out. Bill leans over to start a conversation but Sam turns away, looking out the window. After the plane lands Sam is waiting for his ride when a woman bumps up against him. “Sorry,” she says, and is about to make chit–chat, but Sam is irritable and moves away.

When Bill leans over to talk to Rick, however, Rick is receptive, for he has been making plans during the entire flight and is feeling juiced. They shoot the breeze for a while and Bill mentions that he’s about to retire after 30 years from a well paying executive position. It turns out that Bill, in his late middle age and with a fat bank account, finally wants to take some risks in his life; he’s tired of his corporate job and is looking for a challenge in his retirement. Bill, in his fantasies, has always dreamed of managing a small start–up but never had the guts to do so before. Now he’s ready. Rick and Bill get excited about Rick’s new venture and exchange email addresses.

What happened? Sam’s very strong desire for a new business put him within vibrational reach of Bill, but Sam’s decision that it’s hopeless sabotages the opportunity. The woman who bumped Sam is a software engineer who is also looking for a new opportunity, and might have made a good employee or partner in Sam’s business. That’s how the law of ‘like attracts like’ works. Through a series of seeming ‘coincidences,’ based upon the content of your conscious vibrational signal, you meet up with people with matching, or similar, desires to yours. It’s your free will decision to take advantage or not, but one thing is for sure: Rick is going to have a lot easier time of it than Sam creating his new company.

The thing is, you never have a clue about how this works unless you are vibrationally ready for it! A guy like Sam would say that it’s total nonsense. And for him, it IS nonsense! He is always vibrationally out of range of those who can help him, even when they are sitting across from him.

Rick and Sam illustrate an important point about the Law of ‘like attracts like’: you can only perceive within a limited range, so you can only come together with those who are in your range. If Sam continues to focus more on his crummy job than on the new business he wants to create, he will no longer even meet up with people like Bill, for they will be completely outside of his vibrational bandwidth His friendship with Rick will also suffer, for Rick will want to hang out with someone whose outlook is more congruent with his. Sam will probably find himself associating more and more with people just like himself: disgruntled and dissatisfied workers who have given up on their dreams.

Sam would probably disagree! Even though Sam wants to change, he is unwilling to do the necessary inner work to alter his state of being. And this is quite understandable, for Sam, during the course of his life, has gotten into a habitual pattern of self-limiting thought. Sam knows that it’s very hard to change, for he has observed his father over the years struggle with his business and his family relationships. Sam just knows, deep down inside that change is difficult.

The Law of Attraction is your obedient servant, but it always matches you up with your true vibration. Despite the apparent unfairness and injustice in the world, the Law of Attraction is scrupulously fair, and does not discriminate against anyone.

Sam’s belief sets up a vibrational pattern of thought, attitude, and emotion that is vibrationally matched by the LOA and is reflected in the people he meets and the situations he finds himself in

Rick, on the other hand, makes his decision for positive change and keeps his focus on the goal. Rick gets up joyfully every morning with his new business in mind, and he’s constantly coming up with new ideas. His new attitude makes him a better employee at his present job as well, and he receives a raise. For Rick, life is grand!

The Law of Attraction is one of the five universal laws, a fundamental property of this universe. It works in concert with the other four and in order to fully comprehend its power, it is necessary to know how the Law of Attraction fits in with the others.

The good news for Sam is that when he truly decides to change positively, his life will begin to mirror those changes. But Sam has to get some new thoughts first! He cannot spend 95% of his time in frustration and expect that Law of Attraction to magically give him his new business. Like Rick, he has to make his dreams the predominant focus of his conscious attention. When he does that, Sam will, like Rick, begin to magically meet up with the people and the resources he needs.

“True love is inspiring people to see their greater potential.” –John Payne

The Law of Attraction and A Course in Miracles

A significant milestone in my recognition of the dream-like nature of the world was in the use of what is called in contemporary times: “The Law of Attraction”, made popular by the movie “The Secret” (don’t really recommend it – has an overly materialistic bent) and by the Abraham-Hicks books, “The Law of Attraction” and “Ask and It Is Given”. I say contemporary because Napoleon Hill’s classic: “Think and Grow Rich” published in 1937, also speaks of the exact same principles – that what you focus upon will manifest in your reality.

I am writing about the Law of Attraction (LoA) because:

1. For the contemporary spiritual seeker it would be hard to have not heard of it, such is the popularity of LoA in our materially-obsessed world
2. It seems to me like speaking about the Law of Attraction is a taboo in the ACIM community
3. I have used the LoA, and still do use it occasionally AND I am a student of the Course. (shock!! scandal!!)
4. In allowing me to see that the ‘real’ world is dream-like, it actually allowed me to accept ACIM more readily in my life – in this regard, it can be helpful.
5. I would like to share my opinion on LoA vis-à-vis ACIM, and hopefully add clarification.

I first discovered LoA when I was about 14, while reading my Dad’s ancient copy of “Think and Grow Rich”. I later read the Abraham-Hicks books, which I took to like a fish to water. I would visualise the outcomes that I wanted – excellent exam results, a prestigious job offer, success with the opposite sex.

Most people will not deny that focusing on a particular goal will cause a change in behaviour of the individual and thus will allow to goal to be more easily achieved, ie. if I think about better exam results, I will be more dedicated on my studies and thus achieving better exam results will not be something magical.

What was shocking to me was that things outside of my control began to align with my intentions – the person who I was just thinking about called me, or I had an extra-friendly interviewer, or that a book I needed to read just happened to be given to me. One might call it luck – but it was obvious to me that the Law of Attraction was very real, and it does work.

The Law of Attraction to me was because it was proof to me that reality is not strictly ‘Newtonian’ – that it is in fact, much more ‘malleable’ and dreamlike than we think.

Just like in a lucid dream, it is possible to affect your reality with your mind. We are not talking about bending city streets into the sky here (like in Inception) or dodging bullets (like in the Matrix). It will be in little things in subtle ways. The way your reality is consciously affected by you – the projector – will very often be on the borderline of believability and unbelievability. In other words – things manifesting into your reality will come in a way in which your conscious mind can deal with. If you decide to manifest a Porsche into your life, it will probably not fall from the sky into your driveway, but you might be guided towards a higher-paying job, which would allow you to earn more money so you could buy it, or you could be guided meet someone who just ‘happens’ to have a Porsche for sale, etc. ‘It was just a coincidence’, our rational brain tells us. But if you stop putting ‘fuel’ into the manifestation process, or if you change your mind about your intention, I can guarantee you that the ‘coincidences’ will stop.

What you intend can and will appear in your reality. The only question is – how much and how quickly? There is only one dependent variable – you. How much and how strongly do you believe in the validity of your intention? This is where the problem is – our unconscious mind and our hidden limiting beliefs. To take the example of the Porsche again – if you have lived much of your life in poverty, are deeply in debt, chances are, as much as you want the Porsche, it is simply too much of a ‘jump’ in vibration for you to accept, and too much of a ‘dissonance’ in the ‘ecology’ of your life. For example, where would you park your Porsche if you are living on the streets? Your unconscious, still programmed with a mentality of poverty, will simply override your Porsche-wanting conscious mind in the same way a deep, fast flowing stream would overpower a little streamlet.

Vice-versa, for a wealthy millionaire who already owns several sports cars and lives in a big mansion, manifesting a Porsche is not a big jump at all. His unconscious is able to readily accept the presence of a Porsche in his life. Soon enough, one of his buddies is moving and looking to sell his Porsche for a cheap price, would he like to buy it? Bingo. Our millionaire has his Porsche.

And so, viewed externally, it would appear that nothing really magical is happening to these two individuals. Even for someone who is extraordinarily adept at this process, to a disbeliever in the Law of Attraction, it would appear that he or she is just ‘lucky’.

But even if the Law of Attraction does work, so what? So what if you are living the ‘dream’ – billions in the bank, a big mansion, a supermodel girlfriend / boyfriend, a successful career? Do you just bliss out and experience boundless joy every single second? Of course not. There’s always more to have. There’s always more to achieve. You could be afraid to lose it. There is no end to comparison, no end to the amount of money you can make, no end to the insatiable wants of the ego. As far as material things go, it’s a bottomless pit.

That was a key realisation for me – you could have everything you wanted, and still be unhappy. Having everything you want does not guarantee happiness. Having everything you want does not guarantee inner peace.

The Law of Attraction is not the answer.

“if you are spending time working on the effect, well, that is kind of like moving around the furniture in a burning house. It might make the house look better temporarily, but you are not dealing with the real problem, which is the mind.” – Gary Renard

It was at this stage when I went on to explore Buddhism and eventually came across ACIM, which I regard to be my calling and my spiritual path. It is the ‘centerpiece’ in my spiritual path, the book I always return to even if I do ‘deviate’, so to speak.

And so we come to a point where we realise LoA works, but we know it’s not the ultimate thing. We listen to ACIM teachers advising us (wisely and rightly) to stick to the Course and not to hang around in the ‘spiritual buffet line’. We are getting the hang of this forgiveness thing but man, it’s really tough with some people. Back in the ‘real’ world, we still have bills to pay and goals we would like to achieve. We think (Okay, I was thinking :)):

‘LoA could really help with this but Gary said it’s like ‘moving furniture’ around – I don’t wanna move furniture around, I want to be a good ACIM student, and forgive all the time, and go home ASAP.’

‘Oh, but it felt so good when I was going downstream, in the Vortex, now it feels like I’m rowing upstream.. Life shouldn’t be so hard! Forgive… Forgive… Aahhh who are we kidding!!??’


…the world and the body are neutral and can serve one of two purposes. To the wrong-minded ego they are instruments to reinforce separation; to the right mind they are the Holy Spirit’s teaching devices through which we learn His lessons of forgiveness.

The LoA is neutral. Everything in this world is neutral. It’s our investment in them that make it real, make it good, or make it bad.

The Course does not ask you to give up anything. It does not ask you to go vegetarian. It does not ask you stop wearing your rosary. It does not ask you to stop hanging out with your non-ACIM friends. And it definitely does not ask you to stop using the Law of Attraction.

Yes, the Kingdom of Heaven is within us and we really do have everything we want and need, but it takes time to realise this. It takes a lot of forgiveness work. In the meantime, it’s okay to ‘have’ a job, try to earn money, put food on the table for the kids, and use the LoA.

LoA is a tool and a skill. Driving a car is a skill. They can be incredibly useful. They can also be incredibly harmful. They are both, as the Course defines it, forms of magic. It’s okay to use magic in your life, depending on the context. But don’t compare them to the Course – it would be like comparing apples and oranges.

Are you using it in a right-minded way or a wrong-minded way? Instead of using the LoA for your egoic needs – it is far, far more important to be asking for guidance from the Holy Spirit.

This relates importantly to the specificity of the intentions: when we say we want a red Porsche, we don’t really want a red Porsche per se – what we want is the feeling of having a red Porsche is like. We want to drive it down the seaside with the top down, the wind blowing in our hair, with our loved one beside us. That’s what we really want. What we really want is a feeling or an experience: be it love, security, abundance, success, etc. When we say we want a billion dollars in the bank, we don’t really want a long number on our bank statement – we want to experience abundance. We want to be able to buy the things we want for ourselves and our loved ones. On the egoic side of things this is also true – if you wanted a billion dollars to show off to your friends how superior you are, for example: if you did have all that money but couldn’t tell anybody about it, it wouldn’t be any good would it?

Ask to be taught, and do not use your experiences to confirm what you have learned. When your peace is threatened or disturbed in any way, say to yourself:

I do not know what anything, including this, means. And so I do not know how to respond to it. And I will not use my own past learning as the light to guide me now.

By this refusal to attempt to teach yourself what you do not know, the Guide Whom God has given you will speak to you. He will take His rightful place in your awareness the instant you abandon it, and offer it to Him.

This is what the Course says: We do not know what we want. Very often, what we think we want doesn’t truly make us happy. I manifested my job as a trader thinking it would make me happy. It didn’t. In fact, the most important lessons I learnt in the Bank was that I didn’t like it and didn’t need to do it any longer!

Go general with your intentions. For most people, it will be about abundance: food, shelter, relationships, experiences. We all want to live the happy dream. We all want to stop struggling. So ask for that! Imagine it! Leave it in the hands of the Universe / the Holy Spirit to sort out the details. Just make sure you stay receptive to the guidance that follows. The answers will very often be unexpected and will appear nonsensical in the short term, but stick with it and soon all will become clear.

So this is my advice:

If you are curious about it – try it. Play with it. Have fun with it. If it makes you feel good, do it! It’s a dream for god-sakes! It may work for you. It may not. Ask the Holy Spirit for guidance with it.

If you use it – stop feeling guilty for using it. Put it into context with the Course. Be aware of your relationship with it. Are you obsessing with it? Is it more important to you than doing your daily lessons or practicing forgiveness? What are you using it for? Ask the Holy Spirit for guidance with it.

If you don’t – that’s absolutely fine too! But don’t judge it. Let it be. Forgive it.

The Law of Attraction – You Get What You Give

The Eighteenth Century Jewish master, Tzemech Tzedek, was once asked to pray for a seriously ill child. He said to the family, “Tracht gut vet zain gut,” a Yiddish phrase which means “Think good, and it will be good.” The child recovered. The Rabbi asked the family when the child began to turn around. They told him it was the minute they began to think positive thoughts. Stories such as this appear in many spiritual traditions. Jesus described a similar situation with the phrase, “your faith has made you well.”

What is the power of the mind?

Is it the ability to bend spoons, a la Uri Geller, or is it the presence of mind to reframe thoughts and take a larger perspective? The mind is certainly powerful and I’m sure that we don’t even know the full extent of the mind’s untapped powers if you take into account our subconscious mind. Either way, the ability to frame your experiences and beliefs in a healthy perspective is potentially more powerful than any magic potion or faith healing.

There is a lot of focus on the Law of Attraction in the modern spiritual scene. I want to address it from an integral perspective and apply it to recent events in Egypt. As I do so, I will explore some of the perennial wisdom that comes out in many spiritual traditions to see what common truth is found. I will also seek to be true to scientific method, and allow for a healthy level of skepticism. Even skepticism has its purposes, if it is reframed as a positive question rather than a closed mind.

Let me begin with an inspiring story that will help to reframe some skepticism surrounding the Law of Attraction. Toni Bernhard is an author with a chronic illness. Her book is called How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and Their Caregivers. It’s a beautiful example of reframing thoughts from a very intelligent and rational person. She became sick in 2001 and never got better. She barely leaves her bed, although for a time she continued lecturing in law while sitting in a chair. After she had been through many of the normal reactions to an illness like denial and blame, she came to some peace with her illness by practicing two Buddhist meditations. The first is Mudita, which is a way of finding joy in the joy of others. For example, when she couldn’t be at her grandchild’s graduation another family member texted her details as they happened. She felt their joy. The second practice is Tonglen which is a method of breathing in the suffering of others and breathing out joy. She practiced it when she couldn’t attend functions, and she would breathe in the pain of the many people around the world who also can’t be with loved ones. She has a wonderful attitude, very real and honest but also an ability to reframe circumstances.

She said this on an NPR interview: “It has taken several years — and many tears — to learn how to thrive in my new life. I still have rough days when I wish I could do whatever I want. But really, who can do that anyway? On the whole, I’m content and at peace with what I can do. Even if it’s from the bed.”

Toni Bernhard is practicing a form of the Law of Attraction. What she is achieving is even more powerful than a miracle cure or an unexplained remission. She is in her words “turning straw into gold.” She is taking the raw and harsh elements of human existence and creating alchemy by transforming them into strength of character and joy. The fact that she is sourcing her joy out of a spiritual tradition is an encouragement to those of us who look to the stories and practices of many traditions to live well and fully.

Make no mistake. The Law of Attraction is powerful. Its healing and transformative powers reach back to ancient Egyptian culture. Reframe your skepticism and allow yourself to entertain the possibility that there is at least a kernel of truth to the Law of Attraction. If you’re already there, open your mind to even greater power. If you’re not quite there yet, stretch your perspective just a little to include more power to your thoughts than you previously gave them.

Positive Thinking

Barbara Ehrenreich’s 2009 book, Bright-Sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America offers an interesting analysis of positive thinking in America. She says it was a reaction to the gloomy Calvinism that first arrived with the pilgrims. Positive thinking arose out of a new theology where God was no longer controlling and judgmental, but was the all pervasive energy of love and goodness in the world. This seems like a healthy development. But Ehrenreich goes on to describe the shadow side of positive thinking- a new form of guilt and works salvation. Righteousness is no longer measured by a judgmental God, but by how positive you are.

As we venture into the exciting and partly mysterious realm of the Law of Attraction, we do well to avoid both forms of judgment. You don’t need to suffer for God or limit your life with self loathing to appease God’s judgment. Nor should you have any fear that the Law of Attraction is a new rod, to beat you for not being positive enough or not recovering quickly enough. The foundation for the Law of Attraction is grace and kindness. There is no hierarchy of positive thinkers, and there is no punishment for skepticism other than the torment you put yourself through by scrunching up your brain in cranky fear. Life is awesome, and your life can be more incredible than you usually allow yourself to believe.

Begin with grace and kindness, allowing yourself to believe that it’s ok to enjoy life. From this beginning, allow your kind thoughts to stretch beyond yourself. There is more than enough love and grace to go around and the more blessings you seek for others, the more you will experience yourself.

The Essence of The Law of Attraction

As well as reframing your voice of skepticism to allow room for new possibilities, allow your skepticism to speak its mind. How do you explain the situations where you desperately want suffering, your own and others, to end, but it doesn’t? There are times when your attitude is strong, you do everything you can. You visualize health and wellness, you speak positively, you think positive thoughts, and yet you don’t get the healing you are looking for, or the solutions you are looking for. How do you explain this? Does it deny the Law of Attraction?

Maybe it’s a misunderstanding of the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction is not about getting what you want. Most of the time, you don’t even know what you really want. You think you want wealth but once you get it, it doesn’t smell as sweet as you imagined.

This Scandinavian story illustrates the problem with desire:

A gnome lived in the forest under the root of a tree. He had one big wish: more than anything else in the world he wanted to own a green hunter’s bag. This gnome used to think about his green hunter’s bag by day and dream about it at night. He had visualized it a thousand times. Then, one day, the gnome received a beautiful green hunter’s bag as a gift. His dream had come true; his all-consuming wish had been fulfilled. The gnome owned a green hunter’s bag. Now you would have expected him to be outrageously happy. But instead, he moaned, “It’s a nice hunter’s bag, only it’s not quite as green as I had imagined it!

One of the blocks to the Law of Attraction is the insatiable desire that always thinks the grass is greener on some other side. The grass isn’t greener on the other side. There is no other side. The grass is green where you water it, and you can water your thoughts in every moment, wherever you are, with mindfulness and perspective.

The Law of Attraction is not about getting what you think you want. It’s not even about getting what you have convinced yourself that you need. Desire is so often built around a false understanding of who you are. There was a Snicker’s commercial in last year’s Super Bowl? Four young guys are on a road trip. When one gets hungry he turns into Aretha Franklin and another turns into Liza Minnelli. Their friend says, “Eat something. Every time you get hungry, you turn into a diva.” The commercial ends with the slogan, “You’re not you when you’re hungry.” It’s a cunning trick of the voice of desire to convince you that unless you get this promotion or some unknown level of wealth, you won’t amount to anything as a person. The Law of Attraction is not about feeding the ego. The Law of Attraction is not about getting what you need. Often, you’re like a hamster on a wheel chasing your tail; and then wondering why you’re coughing up fur balls.

The Law of Attraction is not about want or need. It is about what you are, consciously or subconsciously, attracting. The more you grow to understand yourself, the more you understand what you are attracting into your life. It becomes clear what is serving you, and filling your life with joy. You seek more of that by BEING more of that, and it finds you because it IS you. What you want, what you need and who you are become one. When you live with this sort of flow, walls turn into doors, hurdles turn into spring boards and crises turn into opportunities. You are at ease with everything that happens and you turn ordinary moments into occasions for incredible joy.

You may feel that the Law of Attraction is not working, or else you may need to reframe your thoughts or retrain your true awareness of who you are. Remember that the Law of Attraction also partners with a lot of other laws, including surrender of outcomes, patience, inspired action and cause and effect. So beware of using the Law of Attraction as an excuse for inaction or laziness.

The Law of Attraction and The Golden Rule

This next point is SO important at this time in history. The Law of Attraction is never a substitute for taking personal responsibility. It’s a partnership AND it’s not all about you and your blessings. The Law of Attraction can easily become narcissistic if it’s not partnered with the Golden Rule. When you are truly living out of your authentic or highest self, you know that your wellbeing is intimately related to the wellbeing of others. The platinum rule goes even further than the Golden Rule. The Platinum Rule says that you should seek more for the other than you do for yourself. The Law of Attraction is about being whole, which is more than the fortunes of any one individual. You may have been blessed with optimum health, but as long as others are suffering there is more to be done. You may have been blessed with great wealth but as long as others are living in poverty there is more to be done. As long as people are suffering and you can do something about it, there is more to do.

One of the great spiritual gurus of the past century is the Indian sage Baba Neem Karoli, better known as Maharaji. People from all over the world travelled to India to visit with Maharaji. They wanted to know the secret to a happy and full life. He said to them, “Feed people.” Surprised, they would question him again. He answered, “Serve people.” He said that the secret to a happy life is to feed people, serve people and help people. Part of the secret to the Law of Attraction is to make sure that you are manifesting for others what you deeply desire for yourself. If you want more friends, then be a friend to others. If you want more money, then give more money to others. If you want more praise, then give more praise to others. The effect of the Law of Attraction is multiplied by the power of many intentions working together for the good of the whole.

The Law of Attraction and Egypt

Apply the Law of Attraction to recent world events. We are in the middle of an unprecedented global shift, centered in the Middle East. Where did the revolutions in Tunisia and Egypt come from, and where is it all heading? The Law of Attraction invites us to ask two very different questions.

What did we, the world community, do to attract this situation? How can we learn from the past?
What do we want to attract from this point forward?
How did we attract this situation?
Take your mind back to the Hebrew Prophets who had their own way of practicing the Law of Attraction. Listen to these words from Isaiah chapter 19 and see if it doesn’t ring true.

I will stir up Egyptian against Egyptian—
brother will fight against brother,
neighbor against neighbor,
city against city,
kingdom against kingdom.
The Egyptians will lose heart,
and I will bring their plans to nothing;
they will consult the idols and the spirits of the dead,
the mediums and the spiritists.
I will hand the Egyptians over
to the power of a cruel master,
and a fierce king will rule over them,”
declares the Lord, the LORD Almighty. Isaiah 19;2-4

The prophets weren’t predicting anything as specific as what is playing out right now, but they were offering a profound comment on the Law of Attraction. Their prophecy was for the fall of Egypt that was followed by a rebirth. They predicted internal and external conflict and the oppression of a dictator. The incredible thing is that we’re somewhere in the middle of their prophecy, maybe watching a key moment in the ongoing ebb and flow. The amazing truth of the Law of Attraction is that we are ALWAYS in the middle of its manifestation. Who can even say if there is an end or an outcome? Everything is always evolving and changing. We are all in a constant cycle of fall and rebirth. The Law of Attraction is about what inner character we manifest through all the uncertainty.

The prophets weren’t offering Nostradamus style predictions. They were describing the natural state of life and the pendulum swing of human desire. How did we attract the most recent conflict in the Middle East? The chickens may be coming home to roost for the cause and effect cycle of the past forty years, including American support of dictators such as Mubarak. Partly out of fear of fundamentalist Islamic government, American has generally supported the pro West, secular governments even when run by loathsome dictators. The mantra has been ‘better the oppressive secular government you know than the Islamic government you don’t know.” We can’t be surprised that people will eventually rise up against dictators. We need to start looking for an integral path beyond both fundamentalist religious government and oppressive secular rule. The chickens are coming home to roost. The REaction matches the actions of many years. We are reaping what we sowed for many decades. This is one side of the Law of Attraction.

Looking forward, how can we apply the Law of Attraction in a healthy way?

The other side of the Law of Attraction is what we want to manifest moving forward. Take a lead from the protestors in Cairo. People who had never before been active became involved in peaceful resistance, refusing to be dictated to any longer and seeking the best future for their country. They networked, door to door and on Twitter and Facebook, to build their movement. 80 year old Arab feminist, Dr. Nawal El Saadawi, who has been fighting injustice for decades and stood on the front lines in Cairo, said to New York Times Nicholas Kristoff, “I feel I am born again.”

They broke the barriers of fear, and now they are manifesting the possibilities of freedom. Another protestor, Seif Salmawy, said with a smile. “Suddenly we are human beings. We think we can decide and that what we decide has worth and that we have some value as humans. Before there was the president, the police, the army and their money: We the people were just there to serve them.”

Take a cue from Egyptian protestors. Remove some fear and claim your true essence as a person of worth and power. In short get out of your own way. And those of us in the west should get out of the way and create space for Middle Eastern countries to create a democracy that works for them rather than the democracy we want to see. It’s time to trust the people. We have been reminded that under the right circumstances, people can and do claim their destiny.

Get Out of Your Own Way

Let me end with a parable that speaks to the Law of Attraction, both in the Middle East and in every personal situation as well. It’s a parable about a dove that illustrates the danger of looking for manifestation of the Law of Attraction in the wrong places.

Originally doves had no wings. One poor dove was being constantly harassed by a lion. Every day the lion would run after the dove, and the dove would just barely escape. One day the dove prayed for wings and sure enough, she got them. As soon as she saw the lion, she called out to him. The lion charged after the dove, and when he was inches from her, the dove started running away.

But the dove tripped over her new wings. Instead of helping her run faster, the wings got in her way. The lion was on top of her now, and before she could pick herself up…well, you know what happened.

When the dove got to bird heaven, she complained to God, “I prayed for help, and you gave me wings. But instead of the wings helping me to run faster, they interfered with my speed.”

God responded: “I didn’t give you those wings to run with. I gave you the wings to fly with.”

The dove was too fixated on her own perspective to see the possibilities. The Law of Attraction collaborates with possibility when you surrender your expectations and outcomes, forge a powerful intention and take inspired action. Then you will fly. And others will soar alongside you. The Law of Attraction is powerful. It requires you to get out of your own way and approach life with grace and optimism. For now, we stand with Egyptians and others seeking freedom and claim our destiny as one world community working towards the common good.

Ian Lawton was ordained as an Anglican Priest in Sydney, Australia, in 1994. Sydney is one of the most conservative Anglican dioceses in the world. He never fit into that church culture, as he was always more interested in connecting with the people who don’t go to church; the homeless people, the broken people, the creative people, the liberated people, the recovering people, the inquiring people, the family people, those who put their humanity before their ideology. These were Ian’s people. He met them in pubs and on university campuses, in gyms and at school picnics. He stood alongside them at protests and bar lines. He just didn’t see them in church. Ian worked on Sydney’s inner city streets and saw the reality of human suffering first hand. He sought a spirituality that made a difference in people’s lives. Ian went on to complete a second degree in sociology. In 2000, Ian left Sydney to become the Vicar of St. Matthew in the City. Ian had four great years at St Matthews; a never-dull, gothic, white stone building in the shadows of the towering casino. His world opened up during these years as he was exposed to Maori language and culture, mixed with a stimulating community; and launched an online progressive network. Bishop John Shelby Spong then convinced Ian to come to the United States to lead an emerging group of progressive Christians at a church now known as C3 Exchange (formerly Christ Community Church) in West Michigan (of all the most unlikely places). Today Ian calls Grand Haven, Michigan home where he lives with his wife Meg and three children Hugo, Darcy and Raina. In addition to Christianity, Ian also practices meditation and actively trains in Zen which has helped to remove any tendency to divide the world up into good and bad, holy and profane.

The Law of Attraction Explained

Whether you know it or not, you are using the Law of Attraction right now. The Law of Attraction means that you attract what you think about. You can use this to attract wealth, a new girlfriend or boyfriend, or whatever else you want.

I will simply this for you. Let’s say you want to order a pizza, which is one of your favorite foods. You first think about how delicious the pizza would be. Then you order the pizza. Then 30 minutes later or so, you are eating and enjoying your pizza. This is an easy example of how the Law of Attraction works. Pretty straightforward, right?

What if instead, you never picked up the phone, and complained about not having a pizza. You say “Oh my God! I need to eat a pizza!!! I’m so hungry! I want to eat a pizza, but no one’s delivering a pizza to me!!!” Unless you have friends around that hear your whining and feel sorry for you, that pizza will never come. Sounds ridiculous right?

That’s because it is! Unfortunately, most people who are stuck in undesirable situations do exactly this. How many times have you heard someone say something like “I hate this stupid job, but I can’t quit because I have bills to pay!” or “I hate being single! I can’t find anybody to be with!”

If you’re using statements like this, cut it out!!! You attract what you think about. Complaining simply reinforces your undesirable situation, and ensures you will get more of the same. If you think about and talk about lack, that’s what you’ll receive!

I am currently in a call center job that I don’t want to stay in. However, I don’t complain about it, I keep a positive attitude when I am there, and I am taking action to make sure my situation improves so I don’t stay there.

I am always open to opportunities to make money from sources other than my day job. So I asked the universe to help me find something. I thought about getting paid writing articles on personal development to increase my financial independence and to help others become better people.

So a few days later, I put a query into a search engine, something like “get paid for personal development articles”. Then I found out about this contest, wrote my article, and submitted it. It’s the Law of Attraction at work. Magic!!!

Whether I win this contest or not is of little concern to me. I care more about providing genuine value to others. Writing this article also helps my writing skills so I can improve and provide even more value to you in the future. Lucky you! So here’s some value coming your way… here’s an easy step by step guide on how to make the Law of Attraction work for you!

Think about what you want

Go to a quiet place and pretend what you desire is already there. Use your imagination, and hold those thoughts as long as possible. How do you feel? Hold that feeling for as long as you can.

Take inspired action

If you really want something, your actions won’t be difficult at all. Use your intuition, and take a small step toward your goal. Do you want to write a book? Write an outline, or just start writing your story. Do you want a significant other? Start by getting out of the house. Then go somewhere where other singles are doing something that interests you. is a site I use frequently. For you spiritual people out there, Yoga classes, Vegan meetups, and hiking groups would be some great places to meet like minded people. You’ll make some new friends, and possibly meet an attractive, sexy man or woman that you feel a genuine connection with. Ladies, if you’re really fortunate, you might even get to meet me! :>

I feel like a newbie with this Law of Attraction thing. I certainly don’t have all of the answers. If I was an expert, my bank account balance would be a lot healthier and I’d be doing some world traveling now. However, I asked the universe to find me some spiritual, creative, and positive people, and it delivered in spades.

Be Grateful and be Positive

This is the most important step. Be grateful for all of the good things you have in your life right now. If you’re reading this, you are probably richer than over half of the people in the world. Keep a positive attitude. Exercising, eating healthy foods, and hanging out with people that inspire you will help you greatly in this area.

Be Patient

Know that the universe is going to help you with your requests. Transitioning from an undesirable job to running your own successful business is not going to happen overnight.

However, if you want to be rich, get your dream job, attract an amazing partner, or have some other inspired goal, you have the means to get it. If you want it bad enough, no power on earth will stop you.

I know when the time is right, I am going to enough money to afford anything I want, have a career that I enjoy and that inspires me, and have an amazing girlfriend. It may take many months, but it is going to happen. In the meantime, I am going to order a pizza.

Law of Attraction – How to Attract Absolutely Everything You Wish

I am deeply grateful to the Universe for the law of attraction.

It is so easy to attract everything you wish into your life by complying with this amazing law.

The less negative thoughts you get in your head, the quicker you are able to bring your desires into manifestation.

Negative thoughts can really slow down or even cancel your desires coming into manifestation.

Therefore it is vital to get rid of your negative thinking by using meditation, for example, to prepare yourself for the law of attraction.

Once you get rid of the negative thinking, you should concentrate on clearly visualizing what you want to have, do or become. Try to visualize your desire in detail and you should spend at least 10 minutes visualizing your goal every day.

Don’t worry if you forget to visualize one day. You will not stop the manifestation process, you may just slow it down.

Once you get good at attracting things to you, you will not even need to visualize any more. I will give you more information about that later on.

When you have visualized what you want and you can bring the image of your desires to your mind at any given time, you should start looking for clues and signs of your desires coming into manifestation.

Mostly people, including me, get clues and signs, but you may also get reassurance that your desire is coming into manifestation by the feeling of assurance or by thoughts of assurance. That happens quite rarely, but you should look out for that too.

I will give you an example how the Universe responds to your wish. As at the moment of writing this article my website is very new, I did not even have a proper ‘About’ page.

I got the feedback of one visitor who wanted to find out more about me and he said that my ‘About’ page does not say anything about who I am.

Therefore I asked the Universe if I need to create a proper ‘About’ page, or should I leave it as it is (I have an audio and picture of me explaining a little bit about me anyway).

After an hour of my request I was reading one blog. I noticed that the blogger just published a new post. I started to read it and the post was about the structure of websites.

It was written in that post that it is crucial to have a good ‘About’ page because visitors want to find out who you are! This way I got the message from the Universe and created my ‘About’ page straight away.

You should always look out for clues and signs of your desire. You should state to the Universe what you want and strongly believe that the law of attraction is bringing it to you.

Another very important thing to do is to expect and be ready to receive your desires.

You cannot get anything from the Universe if you ask for something but then do not really believe that you will receive it. It does not work this way.

You have to strongly believe that you are about to receive what you want.

In fact, try to convince yourself that you already have what you want. This will give you an advantage because you will come from an abundance state of mind, rather than lack.

That may be hard to do if you are just starting off, so you should start from visualizing smaller desires.

At first it will be much easier to believe that you already possess small desires. Once you manifest them, you can move on to bigger ones because you will be more assured that your desires sent to the Universe always bring back the manifestations of them.

I know that some people give advice that you should straight away try to manifest very big goals. But that usually does not work because if you have not consciously manifested anything, you will not be able to believe that you are truly in the possession of a huge desire.

If you send a wish to the Universe but you cannot make yourself believe that you already have your desire, you will only manifest lack because you will approach the Universe with the mindset of lack. So be careful not to do that and start from small things first.

I remember my first manifestation was a cup of coffee, than mp3 player, than happiness, peace of mind and so on. It was really exciting to see how I can gradually progress from small things to bigger and bigger ones.

I cannot stress the importance of being ready to receive your desire. If you want to manifest love, for example, you cannot go about your day being grumpy. This will not resonate with your goal. You should be happy and expecting, looking to receive love.

You should completely open yourself and surrender to love. You need to entirely trust the Universe without trying to find out how love will come into your life.

Leave this job to the Universe; do not try to get involved in the manifestation process. Just trust that the universe will bring love in the most perfect and unexpected way.

During the manifestation process you should never dwell on negative thinking. It has the ability to completely mess up or even prevent you from getting the law of attraction working on your side.

Negative thinking is like a brick wall preventing you from receiving your manifestation. The more you emerge yourself into worry and thoughts of lack, the higher and thicker the wall you are building to prevent yourself from getting your desires.

Also you should try not to be impatient. It will take longer for your desire to manifest if this is your first or second time consciously applying the law of attraction.

That is completely normal because you are just getting to know the whole process of manifestation. Also, you might still have some limiting beliefs left in you, which really slow down the process of attraction. But never worry about that. Let the Universe find the best way for the manifestation to reach you.

Once you manifest one goal, some of your limiting beliefs will disappear because you will prove them wrong by getting what you want. For example, you may lose a belief that “Only by working hard you can succeed” because you will see that the opposite is true.

You should not tell anyone about what you want to manifest because some of your friends may express disbelief and that will impact you (especially at early stages). You will start doubting the whole process of the law of attraction and this way you will block yourself from the manifestation reaching you.

Also, whenever you tell about your desire to others, if it is still just in the process of manifestation, you are taking energy away from it. This leaves little energy for the manifested desire to reach you. So you may get your desire after a long time or not get it at all.

When you become good at making the law of attraction work for you, there will be no need for visualization. All you will have to do is to tell the universe (even in your mind) about what you want. Be ready and completely believe that you are receiving your manifestation, and it will come very soon.

The more you become good at consciously using the law of attraction, the less time you need to wait for your desire to manifest.

I still did not tell you the best part of this process… Once you get a proof that the law of attraction always works, you will eliminate the worst emotion that you can have – fear.

There will be no reason for you to fear anything, because you will know that only you can decide what you will experience. You are in complete control of your destiny, and as long as you do not introduce negative thoughts, nothing negative can possibly happen to you.

You will feel like you are so much loved by the universe. You will feel the love of it because of all the things it gives to you. Whatever you want, the universe is more than happy to supply you with.

Also I will tell you the biggest mistake that people make in trying to manifest their desires. They spend ten minutes visualizing their goals and being happy about it, but then they carry on with their lives being bored, disappointed or feeling helpless.

It is important to visualize your goals because it quickens the process of the law of attraction.

But the main state of mind is more important than visualization! It is illogical to think that you will receive your desire by being grumpy most of the time. You will not!

You should guard your mind the best way you can so that you would never talk, behave or think opposite to what you want the law of attraction bring to you.

If you want to manifest love in your life, you should never feel hate or boredom. If you want to manifest abundance, you should never feel or think about lack. If you want to manifest happiness, you cannot let yourself have discouraging and limiting thoughts about how hopeless or unlucky you are.

I know it might be hard not to do that if this is your current reality. But keep in mind that you created such reality because of the mistakes you made in the past. You can surely change that by changing your current state of mind.

If you live in lack, only pay attention to abundance. Even if you only see evidence of abundance by looking at plenty of flowers in the garden or many clouds in the sky. These are all signs of abundance in nature, a natural state of everything in this universe.

By looking at the manifestations of abundance you will be able to bring out the feeling of abundance in yourself that was hidden away by your thoughts of lack.

By observing abundance you will start feeling wealthy although you may still have no proof supporting that. But once you feel this way, you will start attracting external abundance in no time.


I have given you the main process, advice and warnings of applying the law of attraction. If you truly obey the law, I can guarantee that you will achieve everything you want.



The senseless torching of a Christian House of worship at the Coast by creatures whose decadence I can only equate to the hounds of hell, is as despicable as it is abominable.

The Coastal region has seen the emergence of a scourge among its predominant Muslim community. It comes in form of a skewed interpretation of Islamic teachings that clearly smacks of fundamentalism in both its weight and taste.
In the days leading to this week’s events, every public officer who was a non-muslim has been regarded as suspect and treated with hostility.

Pervasively evident is the permeating of popular discourse and social morality that is saturated with hints of intolerance and sedition.

An analysis of the fundamentalist mindset reveals a psychology controlled with a sense of paranoia and depravity. The basic instinct of such an animal is withdrawal into a world of insolence and obstinate denial. Perceived “Foreign” ideas and thoughts are shunned and a preference to wallow in a miasma of ignorance and hate becomes the easier option.

The fanatic’s inability to cultivate empathy coupled with his belief in militancy as the only tool for negotiation portends an ominous fate to any attempts at peaceful dialogue in future. And as demonstrated in other parts of the world, extremists tend to enforce their belief systems upon any citizenry and as such subdue independent thought and the attendant freedoms.

The senseless violence unleashed upon innocent bystanders paints a disturbing portrait of a society facing existential threats from a vicious brute whose thinking has gone awry.
Religious bigotry is indeed a threat to civilized co-existence. It is a weapon of mass destruction more potent than any arsenal gathered yet in a dictator’s armory.

And therefore, I will not be part of today’s political correctness that embraces notions of moral and religious relativism wholesale.

Why should I be terrified of appearing racist, or bigoted or xenophobic?

I will not in the name of tolerance affirm the farcical notion that all moral claims are created equal. Muslims shouldn’t get a free pass, to air and act on their anti-Christian , anti-freedom, anti-women rhetoric whenever and wherever they choose. Muslim hard-liners should not be shouted down: they should be stamped out, eliminated and decimated.

Extremism is fostered among embittered adherents to the Islamic faith and thrives on real and/or perceived historical injustices. Many a youth disillusioned by poverty and joblessness are thus prone to brainwashing by paranoid and selfish spiritual leaders in pursuit of their own agenda.

Perpetrators of these spiritual seeds of discord seek to exploit our way of life, the freedom that democracy accords them, and thus our vulnerability. We should in this connection deny any Islamic radical their constitutional rights and feel justified too.

I therefore call for the systematic and deliberate decapitation of this phenomena that is threatening our posterity.
Education, persuasion, dialogue and provision of a means to better economic opportunities can be used to stifle fundamentalism of new converts.

If this fails, a world wide crusade to incinerate these degenerate miscreants should be initiated. A couple of nukes will certainly wipe the suicide vests out of their chests. Send them to where they have always belonged, the oblivion. Let us rid the world of these savages before we have an encore of the westgate mall attack.

Looking beyond....

An In-depth Look at American Military Tactics That Re-Wrote The Battle Field History.


A CV-22 Osprey flown by USAF 8th Special Operations Squadron.
This specially designed aircraft enables special forces units to pass and receive information in realtime enhancing their battle field awareness.

The September 11th attacks in the US rattled the Americas’ intelligence community and its’ military brass. The then defence secretary, Donald Rumsfield assembled a select group of Republican policy makers who drafted what has been known as “The Bush Doctrine.” This was a radical perspective by a leader whose strength had been questioned and tested. America needed to act. The entire structure of American defence strategy was revised and what came to be known as “The war on Terror” was born. Iran, Iraq, Syria and North Korea were labelled as ” the axis of evil” and as Bush intoned…

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We shall be notes in that great Symphony
Whose cadence circles through the rhythmic spheres,
And all the live World’s throbbing heart shall be
One with our heart, the stealthy creeping years
Have lost their terrors now, we shall not die,
The Universe itself shall be our Immortality!


Nature's Wonder

The beauty of nature dwells in its effortless exquisiteness. It takes your breath away without trying.

ALL that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts. In a justly ordered universe, where loss of equipoise would mean total destruction, individual responsibility must be absolute. A man’s weakness and strength, purity and impurity, are his own, and not another man’s; they are brought about by himself, and not by another; and they can only be altered by himself, never by another. His condition is also his own, and not another man’s. His suffering and his happiness are evolved from within. As he thinks, so he is; as he continues to think, so he remains.
A strong man cannot help a weaker unless that weaker is willing to be helped, and even then the weak man must become strong of himself; he must, by his own efforts, develop the strength which he admires in another. None but himself can alter his condition.
History abounds with tales of experts who were convinced that the ideas, plans, and projects of others could never be achieved. However, accomplishment came to those who said, “I can make it happen.”
The Italian sculptor Agostino d’Antonio worked diligently on a large piece of marble. Unable to produce his desired masterpiece, he lamented, “I can do nothing with it.” Other sculptors also worked this difficult piece of marble, but to no avail. Michelangelo discovered the stone and visualized the possibilities in it. His “I-can-make-it-happen” attitude resulted in one of the world’s masterpieces – David.
The experts of Spain concluded that Columbus’s plans to discover a new and shorter route to the West Indies was virtually impossible. Queen Isabella and King Ferdinand ignored the report of the experts. “I can make it happen,” Columbus persisted. And he did. Everyone knew the world was flat, but not Columbus. The Nina, the Pinta, the Santa Maria, along with Columbus and his small band of followers, sailed to “impossible” new lands and thriving resources.
Even the great Thomas Alva Edison discouraged his friend, Henry Ford, from pursuing his fledgling idea of a motorcar. Convinced of the worthlessness of the idea, Edison invited Ford to come and work for him. Ford remained committed and tirelessly pursued his dream. Although his first attempt resulted in a vehicle without reverse gear, Henry Ford knew he could make it happen. And, of course, he did.
“Forget it,” the experts advised Madame Curie. They agreed radium was a scientifically impossible idea. However, Marie Curie insisted, “I can make it happen.”
Let’s not forget our friends Orville and Wilbur Wright. Journalists, friends, armed forces specialists, and even their father laughed at the idea of an airplane. “What a silly and insane way to spend money. Leave flying to the birds,” they jeered. “Sorry,” the Wright brothers responded. “We have a dream, and we can make it happen.” As a result, a place called Kitty Hawk, North Carolina, became the setting for the launching of their “ridiculous” idea.
Finally, as you read these accounts under the magnificent lighting of your environment, consider the plight of Benjamin Franklin. He was admonished to stop the foolish experimenting with lighting. What an absurdity and waste of time! Why, nothing could outdo the fabulous oil lamp. Thank goodness Franklin knew he could make it happen. You too can make it happen!
Man is a growth by law, and not a creation by artifice, and cause and effect is as absolute and undeviating in the hidden realm of thought as in the world of visible and material things. A noble and Godlike character is not a thing of favour or chance, but is the natural result of continued effort in right thinking, the effect of long-cherished association with Godlike thoughts. An ignoble and bestial character, by the same process, is the result of the continued harbouring of grovelling thoughts.
Man is made or unmade by himself; in the armoury of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself; he also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace. By the right choice and true application of thought, man ascends to the Divine Perfection; by the abuse and wrong application of thought, he descends below the level of the beast. Between these two extremes are all the grades of character, and man is their maker and master.
Of all the beautiful truths pertaining to the soul which have been restored and brought to light in this age, none is more gladdening or fruitful of divine promise and confidence than this—that man is the master of thought, the moulder of character, and the maker and shaper of condition, environment, and destiny.
As a being of Power, Intelligence, and Love, and the lord of his own thoughts, man holds the key to every situation, and contains within himself that transforming and regenerative agency by which he may make himself what he wills.
Man is always the master, even in his weaker and most abandoned state; but in his weakness and degradation he is the foolish master who misgoverns his “household.” When he begins to reflect upon his condition, and to search diligently for the Law upon which his being is established, he then becomes the wise master, directing his energies with intelligence, and fashioning his thoughts to fruitful issues. Such is the conscious master, and man can only thus become by discovering within himself the laws of thought; which discovery is totally a matter of application, self analysis, and experience.
Only by much searching and mining, are gold and diamonds obtained, and man can find every truth connected with his being, if he will dig deep into the mine of his soul; and that he is the maker of his character, the moulder of his life, and the builder of his destiny, he may unerringly prove, if he will watch, control, and alter his thoughts, tracing their effects upon himself, upon others, and upon his life and circumstances, linking cause and effect by patient practice and investigation, and utilizing his every experience, even to the most trivial, everyday occurrence, as a means of obtaining that knowledge of himself which is Understanding, Wisdom, Power. In this direction, as in no other, is the law absolute that “He that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened;” for only by patience, practice, and ceaseless importunity can a man enter the Door of the Temple of Knowledge.
Adversity is the grindstone of life. Intended to polish you up, adversity also has the ability to grind you down. The impact and ultimate result depend on what you do with the difficulties that come your way. Consider the phenomenal achievements of people experiencing adversity.
Beethoven composed his greatest works after becoming deaf. Sir Walter Raleigh wrote the History of the World during a thirteen year imprisonment. If Columbus had turned back, no one could have blamed him, considering the constant adversity he endured. Of course, no one would have remembered him either. Abraham Lincoln achieved greatness by his display of wisdom and character during the devastation of the Civil War. Luther translated the Bible while enduring confinement in the Castle of Wartburg. Under a sentence of death and during twenty years in exile, Dante wrote the Divine Comedy. John Bunyan wrote Pilgrim’s Progress in a Bedford jail.
Finally, consider a more recent example. Mary Groda-Lewis endured sixteen years of illiteracy because of unrecognized dyslexia, was committed to a reformatory on two different occasions, and almost died of a stroke while bearing a child. Committed to going to college, she worked at a variety of odd jobs to save money, graduated with her high school equivalency at eighteen, was named Oregon’s outstanding Upward Bound student, and finally entered college. Determined to become a doctor, she faced fifteen medical school rejections until Albany Medical College finally accepted her. In 1984, Dr. Mary Groda-Lewis, at thirty-five, graduated with honors to fulfill her dream.
Adversity – the grindstone of life. Will it grind you down or polish you up?


I have been presented with this issue on previous writing discourses with my readers wanting to know my take on our contemporary dating scene.
Friends and colleagues have all had their fair share of drama in relationships. And so have you. I will thus spare you the generalities and instead focus on a few case studies that I chose to focus on whilst discussing this topic.
Let me state that men and women are all equally guilty of cheating. They cheat with a determination that is akin to their animal instinct. While men do this with reckless abandon, women will be more deliberate and painstaking. Women may choose the one night stand mode, or a long term affiliation. But it will be a well concealed affair that is unacknowledged to even their closes friends. While men may brag about it and often fall victim of their folly, you are more unlikely to catch a cheating woman. As the stereotype cheaters men are expected to sleep around and they thus are not in contravention of any societal norm. Meanwhile women will go out to seduce, make themselves available or initiate a relationship quite contrary to their instincts and tradition. It is examples of these that I wish to share.
The First Lady I met was a mother of two. She was three years into her matrimony and on the surface looked all. I initiated contact seeking information on a certain business deal she had advertised on Facebook. As days moved on our conversations moved from professional to the personal. What were her hobbies, could we meet over coffee, in town or my place. As it normally ends up in such acquaintances our conversation turned to the nitty gritty of who we were to each other. Could she agree to a weekend with me? What about sex, should we use contraceptives or go for HIV test? It was quite a steamy exchange. Late night calls lasted for hours. Eventually we set a rendezvous. This was my dilemma. I had entered this affair as an investigator seeking to find the possibility of such a liaison. And now here was a lady who had turned from prey to hunter. She incessantly called me and demanded we meet. Eventually I found a way to let her go.

What this revealed to me was the vulnerability of any woman in a marriage. They normally will be bored with the routine of their marriage. Any one willing to accept them and offer a diversion from their bland life is a welcome distraction.

I hold this truth to be self evident, that any woman will cheat with you, sleep with you, as long as she feels the need and the risk of being discovered is nil. That is the maxim for the married.

For those in relationships thats not matrimonial, cheating occurs to avenge their boyfriend’s indiscretion or for the heck of it. Just cause they can. Women at this stage will mostly be faithful to their spouses unless provoked to be otherwise. Cheating here can be induced by, as mentioned earlier anger over spouse cheating, flippant party going lifestyle, ghosts of previous relationships, or just a spur of the moment desire when conditions are right.

There are those who will have multiple partners and never be held down in a relationship. They will sleep with a guy and show him the door next morning. No strings attached type of affairs. These group flip flops from one man to another and are not as sophisticated as we may imagine. They just drop panties indiscriminately.

It thus is a tragedy for the married men. They will never tell whether the kid calling them daddy is theirs. Especially the third and fourth born. This is the time when marital bliss is dead and conception from a once a month sexual encounter is highly unlikely.
Next time you are with your girlfriend take note of the following indicators that show she might be cheating. And the when two or three show up, the likelihood that she is cheating is quite high,for as dogs in heat, a woman will always find one to satisfy her urges whenever they come. And you will be no wiser.


1. She has lots of close male friends – A significant number of affairs begin as close friendships with members of the opposite sex. The relationship may be platonic at the beginning, but chances are, it won’t stay that way. The closer the woman is to her platonic male friend, the more likely it is that he will eventually end up becoming her lover – unless he’s gay.

2. She has girlfriends who are cheating on their mates. – Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. Adults are susceptible to it, too. If a woman has one or more close female friends who are cheating on their husbands or boyfriends, she may eventually start cheating, too.

3. She has an excessive need for attention. – A woman who constantly craves attention may cheat on her mate if she feels she’s not getting enough attention from him. She will be easy prey for any man who showers with her the attention she feels she deserves.

4. She’s materialistic. – A materialistic woman is likely to have an affair with a wealthy man because of the material things he can provide. She can easily be seduced with jewelry, designer clothes, lavish vacations, or the cash to buy these and other expensive things.

5. She views sex as a statement of her femininity. – Her identity as a woman is tied to how many men she sleeps with. Seducing men to sleep with her is the focal point of her life. With this mental attitude, it’s hard for her to stay faithful to just one man.

6. She’s a thrill seeker or a risk taker. – If she’s the type who likes to live dangerously, she’ll cheat just for the thrill of it, or for the excitement of doing something forbidden, or for the challenge of seeing if she can pull it off without getting caught. She views infidelity as other people would view a high-risk sport.

7. She’s easily bored. – A woman who is easily bored, or who leads a dull, routine life may cheat on her mate just to alleviate her boredom or add some excitement to her life.

8. She has been cheated on by her mate. – If a woman’s husband or boyfriend has cheated on her, she may try to even the score by cheating on him in return. Many women who have been victims of infidelity will indulge in retaliatory cheating or have revenge affairs.

9. She likes being the center of attention. – If a woman thrives on being the center of attention at all times, she is sexually vulnerable to any man who fawns over her, or makes her feel like she’s #1

10. She’s addicted to alcohol or drugs. – Women who are substance abusers are much more likely to end up cheating on their mates. Female alcoholics are susceptible to infidelity because their inhibitions will be lowered and their judgment impaired. Female drug addicts may sell their bodies for drugs. Either type of woman is likely to cheat without realizing what she’s doing.

11. She has a reputation as a “party girl.” – If she’s the type of woman who runs with a fast crowd, or parties all the time, or hangs out until the wee hours of the night, her lifestyle makes her vulnerable to having an affair.

12. She’s a sex addict. – Women can be sex addicts, too. It’s an addiction that affects at least 6% of the American population. In the past these women were referred to as nymphomaniacs. This is a medical condition that requires professional medical help.

13. She has a sex drive greater than her partner’s. – If her sex drive greatly exceeds the sex drive of her husband or boyfriend, or her spouse or significant other is lacking in bedroom skills, she’s much more likely to cheat on her mate. She’ll find another man to make up for her mate’s deficiency.

14. She’s had lots of sexual experience. – If she has led a very active sex life, or has had lots of sex partners before settling down, she will find it extremely difficult to stay faithful to just one man.

15. She cheated before and got away with it. – That old saying “ Once a cheater, always a cheater will apply if she cheated in the past and didn’t suffer any negative consequences as a result of her infidelity. If she cheated before and didn’t get caught, she’s more likely to cheat again. The same applies if she cheated and her man readily forgave her without holding her accountable for her infidelity.

16. She has a big ego. – If she’s extremely egotistic, any man who feeds her inflated ego can easily get her into bed.

17. She suffers from low self esteem. – The opposite characteristic is also a danger sign. If she suffers from low-self esteem, she will be easy prey for the man who flatters her, makes her feel good about herself, and boosts her self esteem.

18. She views sex as a game. In her mind, sex is not connected to love. Sex is just a game in which she gets points for every man she beds. Even though she may be in love with her partner, she’ll have sex with as many men as possible so she can gain the maximum number of points and win the game.


If she turns secretive and tries to guard her conversations on the phone, leaves the room everytime she gets a call on her cell you are in trouble.
If you call or text her first all the time and she doesn’t bother to do so then that is a bad sign. She doesn’t initiate conversations and she starts picking fights too often. Again under any circumstances if you catch her lying, it is often a cause for concern giving signal of infidelity.Subtle changes in the behaviour of close common friends then it is possible that they know something that you don’t. Perhaps you are the last to know
If your girlfriend suddenly starts worrying a little more about her appearance – new clothes, make-up…she may be trying to look good for someone else. If she gets dressed up for you, that’s one thing but if they seem to spend a little more time looking good to go out without you, then that might be a cause to worry. When your spouse becomes emotionally distant, withdrawn or depressed for no apparent reason she is highly likely to be cheating on you.

Below is a list of character traits I observed from my own relationship with my ex- girlfriend, and other men whose spouses cheated on them. I wrote them down so as to never fall again in such a mire. Let’s look them up.

The fact that she no longer wants to attend your family’s functions or hang with your friends is one of our signs she’s cheating on you. This sign may be indicative of cheater’s remorse on her part, which means that she likely feels guilty about cheating. The less she immerses herself in your circles (which contain people who are painful reminders of her sins), the less mental anguish she’ll have to endure.

She nags you incessantly. Gone are the days when the two of you could communicate with harmonious precision. Now, every sentiment you express sets her off and she finds any excuse to lash out at you.
If such an about-face sounds familiar, she may be subconsciously trying to justify her little tryst. Nagging you helps eliminate or at least ease her nagging guilt. So if she habitually begins to point out your every flaw, you may want to get to the bottom of what’s really going on because it’s one of our signs she’s cheating on you.

She has a mysterious friend
A telltale sign that your woman is cheating arises when a mysterious friend inches his way into the picture. Whether it’s someone she claims is a coworker or an old friend from way back, she keeps this friendship under wraps and is hesitant to share any general details about him, much less introduce you. And it doesn’t take a Ph.D. to figure out why.

She deflects simple questions
You should be suspicious of your girlfriend when she refuses to answer the simplest and fairest of questions or answers questions only after repeating them back to you, which usually indicates a mind that’s searching for a lie. Be wary of times when, rather than reveal that she got home at midnight, she begrudgingly asks, “Why do you want to know what time I left the coffee shop?” If she gets defensive about disclosing information that she used to volunteer without hesitation, she may be hiding something or someone and it’s one of the surest sings she’s cheating on you.

She shifts priorities away from you
If she is involved in a hot and heavy romance with someone else, you’ll definitely feel a shift in her daily priorities. Suddenly, there are no more implied Sunday dates at the movies or something always comes up on dance-lesson Thursday. There is a tendency for most philanderers to schedule meetings with their new flame as often as they can, which results in a complete disregard for previous engagements.

She puts more effort into looking sexy
You may like her just the way she is, but that won’t stop her from trying to dazzle her new fling. Just as you tried to impress each other at the beginning of your relationship, she’ll try to impress her new flame with a sudden urge to improve her style, change her makeup and alter her physical appearance for the new man in her life. So, while her desire to look sexier is one thing, not caring about your opinion on the matter is quite another.

She becomes autonomous
One of the biggest signs she’s cheating on you is her breaking away from your little two-person unit to become more autonomous. She has dropped “we” from her vocabulary in favor of “I.” Moreover, she does more things on her own and stops consulting you about future plans. In short, she conducts herself in ways that hint that she no longer needs you to hold her hand. Whether she’s hoping you’ll leave her or she’s simply looking for more time to lead her “double life,” it’s safe to conclude that she wants you out of the picture — she just can’t build up the nerve to leave you.

She has no interest in sex with you
When your relationship was new, the two of your were full of passion and open to spontaneous lovemaking. Now it’s all a bit iffy, whereby you’re rarely hitting the sheets and you’re only doing so if and when she feels like it.
On a slightly more ego-bashing note, she may suddenly become bored by your performance and appear to be thinking about someone else when you do make love. Cheating may be wrong, but you can’t deny that unlawful sex is usually more exhilarating. So, if you can no longer satisfy her sexually, someone else may be rubbing her the right way.

She’s secretive about her schedule
She may claim to no longer have time for any extracurricular activities with you, yet she has one foot out the door the minute one of her girlfriends calls. Either that or she has been “going away on business” one too many times. And when she does leave, her whereabouts are sketchy at best and you are somehow always the last to know.
Disclosing her itinerary to you at the last minute and overlooking your plans in the process can mean many things, one of which isn’t that she’s forgetting, but rather leaving you out.

You become irrelevant
What could be worse than a girlfriend who nags you about absolutely everything? How about one who stops noticing that you’re even alive? Just as being a constant nag is a sign that she’s cheating on you, the opposite could be yet another clue of your loves cheating ways.
All at once, she doesn’t care if you don’t want to go to the ballet with her; she’ll just find somebody else with whom to go. And whatever opinion you may have, be it about how she looks or how you’re feeling, is met with a tepid response. In other words, she doesn’t place the same importance on what you think and what you do as she once did, especially on things that directly affect the relationship.

Has she been getting more private phone calls lately? Does she leave the room to talk on the phone more than before? When you ask her about a call, does her response seem genuine, or does it seem that she is not being truthful about who is on the other end?
Any change in phone calls including frequency of calls, time of day, tone of voice or a change in text messaging habits could all signify that she is cheating. When she answers the phone, does she drop her volume or suddenly sound as flirtatious as she did when you were first dating? If it seems like her phone habits are changing and you cannot understand the changes, you may be witnessing an affair.

Dates with Girlfriends
Is she spending more time with her girlfriends than in the past? Are there many evenings out with the girls, when there were almost none just a short while ago? When you ask her who she will be with, does her answer sound sincere?
If any of these scenarios ring a bell, your wife may be going out, but not with the girls. If she was not socializing with her friends with the same frequency that she is now, that is a sign. If she is doing different things than she did with the girls in the past (e.g., they always went to the movies, but now she is going out dancing), that is a good indication that all is not what it seems.

Showering and the Gym
Does she come home freshly showered, when in the past she did not shower during the day? Does she seem to be going to the gym more often than she used to?
There are two parts to this one. The gym excuse could be legitimate; it just might be that she is going there more frequently. The problem is that she might be working out more to impress her new love interest. And if she is not in need of her usual shower at night, chances are she is showering after an afternoon of steamy sex, followed by a steamy shower.

Does she ever smell of different cologne, one that is more masculine than hers? Do you ever comment on the new scent she is wearing, only to find that she does not apply the same scent at home?
It could be that the new scent is not hers, but his. Do you by any chance recognize the scent as one you might have tried in the past? And — I hope this is not the case — do you recognize it as a scent one of your friends wears? Need I say more?

Eye Contact
Has she stopped making eye contact when answering questions about where she has been and what she has been doing? Does she avoid looking you straight in the eye, when that was not an issue before?
For most people (other than psychopaths and trained spies), it is very challenging to look someone who knows you very well in the eye and tell an out-and-out lie. If your wife is lying to you, there is a very good likelihood that she will be looking anywhere but into your eyes when she does.

Alcohol and Other Substances
Is she drinking outside the home at odd times (daytime) or more than before? Have you suspected drug use, where there was none before? Does she ever smell of cigarettes, even though she doesn’t smoke?
If you are seeing any of these scenarios, there is probably a partner in crime. Sex, drugs and rock and roll all go together, as does alcohol, and could all be indulged in during a tryst. If she smells of cigarettes and she does not smoke, you can bet that he does. You know, almost certainly, that someone else is influencing her choices if these behaviors are taking place when they were not happening before.

Sexual Deviations
Does she want sex less often than usual? Does she seem to just be going through the motions? Is she asking for things you never did before or teaching you new tricks?
Any extreme variances in sexual behavior are possible indications that there is a new influence in her life. While there are other possible circumstances (e.g., she has just finished “Fifty Shades Of Gray”), the most likely scenario is that she is getting fulfilled outside of the relationship or realizing that there are new and different things that she enjoys and is bringing them into your bed.

The other most prominently featured sign of infidelity is the fact that the unfaithful spouse became angry, critical and even at times cruel. Is your spouse often complaining of trivial things? Do you sense unhappiness in your spouse, but you can’t explain it or understand it? (And do they refuse to acknowledge it or talk about it when asked?) Do you feel like you can’t do anything right? Do you feel like you keep giving and they keep taking yet they are still unhappy? Yes’s to these questions are among the signs of infidelity.

Dislikes control.
Another sign of infidelity is the issue of control voiced by those who are cheating. Often they complain that their spouses are “controlling”, yet they themselves are guilty of attempting to control. Does your spouse complain about being controlled or that they are being watched, even if you ask very little of what they are doing? Or do you feel pressured to do such and such? If you find that ‘control’ is an ongoing issue in your discussions with your mate your relationship could be at risk.

Increase in working hours, after work meetings, business trips and a need to work out of town for prolonged periods of time.

When she becomes extra flirtatious with the opposite sex. If she keeps telling you that they were ‘just friends. The fact that she continually seemed to need to emphasize it, when you aren’t even asking, should have been an indication to you that something is up.

Another sign of infidelity is an obsessive need for ‘private ness’ and staying up late at night to work on the computer. When confronted with his excessive late night hours in front of the monitor, one cheater responded “it’s none of your business. I’m entitled to my privacy.” This is a typical response of an unfaithful spouse. Unfortunately the internet has opened up a whole new way to infidelity. When your spouse suddenly needs a private email or bank account (which they become highly defensive about maintaining) there is a good chance that they are hiding something, and that something is probably marital infidelity. Hiding credit card statements and phone bills are also among the signs of infidelity.

These signs are not written in order of importance. For example I experienced signs elucidated in points 10,11,15,16,18, 19, 20 and 21.

For advice on how to proof that your spouse is cheating and how to deal with her, watch out for my next article on this blog.